-Thandeka and Sibusiso tied the knot in Durban this past weekend
- With arrays of blue the wedding party looked stunning
- His ill mother made it to his special day
It was not Isibaya, but a small village in Durban, that we witnessed a “Thandeka and Sibusiso” life. It was a warm Sunday.
Our Perfect Wedding visited Mfume in Durban, to marry off Sibusiso Hlengwa and Thandeka Khuzwayo Nzama.
When Sibusiso met of Thandeka in 2002, he was taken aback how well mannered she was. His strategy to pursue her was to play soccer closer to her home.
Sibusiso kicked the ball until finally she came around. He did everything to impress her. Even though their first conversation led nowhere he never gave up.
"I moved to my brother's place in Folweni. He followed me there as well. I then moved to Mazixhame to live with my uncle and he got a hold of the landline number and started calling me," says Thandeka.
"I was so surprised that he was so persistent. I thought he'd move on," they both laugh.
It was 2009, 7 years of pursuing her that the couple finally started dating.
"I'd always known she was the woman I wanted to marry but I didn't have the resources at the time," says Sibusiso. "We wanted to be on Our Perfect Wedding because this is a first for our village.”
Royal blue and lemon were the colour theme of the wedding.
Thandeka did not fit her wedding dress at the store where she bought it, as per the show’s tradition. The store owner, at the last minute, got cold feet and refused to sell Thandeka her dress. It was month end and the store owner felt the hype of activity would chase her customers away.
The boutique where Thandeka purchased her traditional attire had a vintage styled white gown adorned with lace sequence trimming the hem. This is the dress Thandeka fell in love with.
The husband to be was dressed in a light blue and the groomsmen in a darker blue complimenting each other perfectly.
Extensions are not allowed, so Thandeka was rocking her natural hair the day before her wedding. Not knowing what to do, she decided to wear a wig for the wedding. She looked amazing and so different.
Thandeka’s twin was dressed in a royal blue dress bringing in lemon on the belt. Bridesmaids dresses were lemon trimmed with flowery sequences on the bodice, paired with royal blue shoes.
The venue was set in a beautiful garden. A huge disappointment was that the pastor did not arrive. Last minute arrangements were made and they couple were married. The magic kiss did not materialize as Thandeka was too shy. "The white wedding is a western thing. We do traditional weddings. Doing 'adult stuff' in public is a no-no" said Thandeka.
A very special memory for Sibusiso, was the attendance of his unwell mother. She was discharged from hospital a week prior and was not sure that she would be fit enough to witness her son’s wedding.
The reception was filled with laughter and dancing.
The isiZulu beauty traditional wedding was held the next day at Sibusiso home in Thenjane in Durban. All the community women manning the three legged Potjie Pots producing divine food for all.
Their traditional attires, imvunulo, were the original type from emkhaya, made of cow skin with black and white beading.
The bride wore beaded takkies, dubbed Macele, symbolizing that Thandeka was now Sibusiso wife. Her skirt was made of cow skin and a bib which again symbolizes her marital status.
A wonderful and significant part of their culture is the gift ceremony. The bride’s family offer gifts to the groom’s family. This takes place before the ceremony begins.
True to the African culture, singing and dancing completed the celebrations.
At the end, the couple was ecstatic to dub the day as the Perfect Wedding.
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