- A lesbian couple has opened up about the difficulties they faced being in a relationship
- However, they were not only subjected to homophobia, but also racism since their an interracial couple as well
- The two women wrote a book detailing just how difficult it was for them and their family
Their love story spans over five decades and two generations, but it was not without struggles and tribulation.
Susan Green and Robin Phillips have been together for years now and they're happily married. But, they have faced challenges.
Not only were people homophobic towards them, but they were also racist. A concept Green was all to familiar with.
Her mother, a white woman from Liverpool, married her father, a black American airman, in the late 1950s, when it was still illegal in the States.
Facing their own tribulations as a couple, Green and Phillips co-wrote a book titled "The Marriage Battle: A Family Tradition".
The book focuses on the parallel love affairs and civil rights challenges in one family.
Green said the process of the book began five years ago when she wrote an article about the debate in US courts about marriages between people of the same gender. She wanted to share her family's story to help people accept them as normal.
Green and Phillips met in 2001 at an event for LGBT to watch a women’s basketball game in New York.
According to Green, it was love at first sight. "I had actually been set up with someone else, but when I saw Robin I knew there was no other person for me.", she said.
She said they often experience racism from society, recalling when they went on their very first date, the waitress ignored her and only spoke to Phillips- something which apparently happens often.
"Was it hard? Certainly. It’s never easy being willing to show everyone your “dirty laundry”, but this book would not have been honest without it. There were times when it was difficult to write, but I had made a promise to myself when I sat down. That promise was that I wouldn’t sugar-coat life.", she said when asked if it was difficult to write the book.
According to Green, a person should tell his or her own story when the time is right for them.
My advice is to make sure you are telling your story at the right time for you. I knew I was gay for several years and was terrified that someone would find out. I always say that people don’t have to approve of me, either as a mixed race child or a lesbian, but they have to respect me. That was always my mantra, and I have to admit it helped me as I was coming out person by person.
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