- Meeting your other half’s parents for the first time can be tough
- Introducing their parents to your parents can be like navigating a minefield in a hail storm
- A relationship expert shows us how it should be done
One of the major obstacles we all face in a relationship is meeting the parents. But that is usually a walk in the park compared to introducing their parents to your parents.
All of a sudden all those annoying little habits your parents have, become deal-breakers in your mind as you try to plan the most peaceful meeting that you can – and hopefully, your plan is that this takes place long before the wedding reception, as tempting as that scenario may be.
However, it can be done, as Prince Harry and Meghan Markle showed us recently when Meghan’s mom, Doria Ragland, was in town to meet the Royal family before the big day.
In an interview with relationships psychologist, author and Relate ambassador Anjula Mutanda, Huffington Post shared some top tips on how to make the parents’ meeting smooth sailing.
5 tips on introducing the parent
Prepare your partner
Keeping your other half in the know about your parents is half the battle won. Be honest. Be open and fill your partner in on who your parents really are. This will help the two of you to be united when it comes time for the paternals to meet
Keep your parents up to date
Feeling insecure in a situation can be overwhelming and if your parents are not sure of the type of people they are meeting, it could end in disaster. Mutanda suggests that you let your folks know just who it is they will be meeting so that they can also feel prepared. This way some of the nerves will be set at bay
Make an effort
Gifts are good. Be sure to take a small gift for each set of parents. Let them feel welcomed, loved and appreciated… Just makes sure no one gift outshines another!
Steer clear of controversial topics
Navigating politics, religion and other hot topics can be exhausting. Mutanda recommends that you just steer clear of all these topics to be safe. You never know what opinions your partner’s parents may have.
Don’t drink too much
As much as you might feel you need a stiff drink to navigate this particular evening, Mutanda advises that you keep a clear head and stick to something weaker. She also recommends that you keep an eye on how much the folks are drinking and gently advise them when they have had enough.
There is one more piece of advice that Briefly.co.za feels you can benefit from in these encounters. Quite simply put, have fun. Remember your partner’s parents are the reason he or she is around, they can’t be all bad – and the same goes for your own folks. Trust them to behave and to have your best interests at heart.
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