Many people will argue that marriage is just and institution which validates reproduction but to a lot of couples, finding the right partner and staying committed to them has helped in propelling their careers to unimaginable heights as well as help them on their journey of self discovery.
We hear stories about thousands of marriages every other day and while some are pure inspirations, some others just discourage love and sacrifice.
In the typical African family, even till this day, it is expected that a man looking to marry from any family is mandated to pay a certain amount in cash or gift as bride price for his intended wife. While some tribes in Nigeria use it as an opportunity to impoverish the groom, some practice it for culture sake.
It is almost unheard that a man will make away with a woman without paying her bride price except they elope or stay together against the wishes of the family. Which is the case of 84-year-old Pastor and founder of Christ Apostolic Church (CAC) Odi-Ajaye Zone, John Olusola Ojo, who has been married to his 70-year-old wife, Olabisi for over four decades.
According to pastor John he never paid his wife's bride price and despite that strange omission, his marriage has lasted for 46 years and he is only doing the needful now because he honours and cherishes his darling wife who he met during her youth.
Speaking on the how the love affair started, 84-year-old John revealed that he was a poor bachelor at the time he met Olabisi and she was a well-to-do family. In fact, marriage between them was frowned upon by her uncle, who reacted to the news by sending her to Kafanchan in the northern part of Nigeria to keep her away from Olusola.
However, she found her way back and married him without doing the necessary traditional rites. Out of respect, John Olusola kept interaction with the family open and 46 years later, he decided to pay her bride price in full, just to honour her and thank her for being his missing rib.
Speaking to Tribune, he said: "On many occasions, her uncle will beat her into coma so that she could denounce me. Because of Bisi’s determination to marry me, she would not change her mind even when her uncle took her to Kafanchan in the northern part of Nigeria, with the belief that distance will remove my love from her heart. One day, after serial persecutions, Bisi returned to me and assured me that even if I had married five wives, she is ready to become the sixth.
“When all persuasions to make my in-laws accept their daughter’s bride price from me failed, the General Superintendent of the Christ Apostolic Church, Nigeria, advised us to go by statutory marriage through which we were certified as husband and wife in 1972. Few years into our marriage, my in-laws had a change of heart; since then we have maintained a good rapport,
“In fact, the relationship with all my in-laws had been so cordial such that nobody was asking for bride price anymore but because of my belief as a Christian, bride price is a must in God’s view; so I must pay it, at least if it is just to show how much I value my dear wife – Olabisi.”
Indeed, love is an amazing thing!
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