- Enhle Mbali, the wife of DJ Black Coffee, told her story in hopes of helping others.
- Black Coffee cheated on her in the beginning of their relationship and she decided to connect with her fans and pass on some advice.
- Fan really appreciated her advice, attentiveness and time.
Enhle Mbaliis is one strong woman. She recently used told the story of her struggles in the hope of helping and guiding others.
Being the wife of international renounced DJ, Black Coffee, Enhle has had to deal with a lot. It takes a strong mind to balance a marriage that is constantly tested by outer forces.
The beautiful actress took some time to speak to her fans and give them a little advice on how to deal with a cheating spouse.
In the early days of her and Black Coffee’s relationship, Enhle was cheated on. She has been transparent with the story and hopes that it will help others.
On Tuesday, on Instagram Live, Enhle connected with her female fans. She gave advice and answered question on how she dealt with Black Coffee cheating.
Briefly.co.za learnt that the video has been removed off of social media, but we got the important bits.
Enhle’s first point was that you should not be blaming the other party, you should be angry at your cheating spouse.
“If there's anyone you should be beating up, it's your man," Enhle stated.
She pointed out the fact that “your man sat in front of thousands of people, hundreds of people and promised 'till death do you part”, not the woman he cheated on you with. It as his responsibility to stick to the promises he made to you, not hers.
Of course the female is in the wrong too, especially if she was aware that he was married, but she is not your person, he is. “Your husband needs to be handled, boo”.
Fans brought up prayer as a means to end the toxic situation, but Enhle, being religious herself, stated that prayer alone, is not enough.
"Yeah, yeah, prayer is good, prayer is amazing... But pray and do something about it," Mbali said.
She went on to say that you need to find out if he is a “serial cheater”, and if he is, you need to ask yourself if you are willing and able to stay in the relationship.
Enhle believes that it is the men who have little confidence who cheat. Alone, they are not enough that is why they cheat. They need constant, inflated, reassurance.
Cheating is an emotionally crippling situation that no one deserves to experience. If it happens to you, you have to be honest with yourself and ask the hard questions or you will end up blaming yourself and accepting less than what you are worth. Never settle, know your worth.
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