Expert: Ask not why Babes didn't leave, ask why he didn't stop

Expert: Ask not why Babes didn't leave, ask why he didn't stop

In the fallout from the Babes Wodumo scandal has been on Mzansi's mind for most of this past week. One expert says that people shouldn't be asking why the musician didn't leave her allegedly abusive boyfriend, but rather - why didn't he stop the abuse?

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Briefly.co.za reported that the video had showcased the abusive behavior of Mampintsha, Wodumo's boyfriend, and eventually led to a very public arrest.

According to News24, Rosie Motene, a woman's rights activist, says she believes the video had been, in her opinion, a cry for help.

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'Why didn't she leave?' was the question on people's minds as they watched the clip that had gone viral. According to Lisa Vetten, gender violence specialist, this shifts the blame off of the perpetrator and onto the victim.

Vetten feels that Wodumo's personal and working relationship with Maphumulo had made it harder for her to walk away.

Wodumo is managed by Mampintsha and he has featured in many of her tracks and videos. According to Vetten, this is a recipe for disaster:

"That is very close monitoring, surveillance and isolation of an individual. It speaks to someone who is very jealous and possessive,"

In Wodumo's case, Vetten felt that the video had been a clear indication of the artist's decision-making process:

"If you go back to the radio interview that exposed the abuse, you can clearly see she was not ready to confront it, but the social media video is showing us the process."

Babes had clearly arrived at the point where she wanted to expose what was going on. Vetten says that the idea takes time to formulate:

"People do not wake up and decide that they do not love their partner anymore - it is a process."

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Source: Briefly.co.za

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