Hearing the words 'I love you' from a parent is not something that many Africans grow up with. That does not mean there is no love, it is just shown in other ways. Arthur Mafokate raised this issue on social media.
Many African mothers prefer to show their children how much they care through their actions and many grow up and old without ever hearing those three little words, 'I love you'.
For many, this isn't an issue - it's how things are done. For others, this feels like neglect. It is an issue that can be debated quite extensively and people might still not agree.
SA Kwaito musician and producer, Arthur Mafokate, has weighed in on the matter and says he can relate - his mother never tells him she loves him, but he doesn't doubt her love for him.
Arthur took to Instagram to share how he feels, along with a video clip about the matter.
Briefly.co.za noticed that his fans' comments were divided - there were people who agreed with him and said actions speak louder than words, but others admitted they know the pain this issue brings and will be different with their own children.
penni_ngubane - Our moms dont say it but we dont doubt it because of the care in their voices when they speak to us. You feel comforted by their presence nje alone.
nomsagarekoe - We express love in different ways.... Gogo is hillarious shem.
bt_group - New cry babies wanna be told wayawaya. Ever since I was born I have never had that from my parents.
siphelele08 - Times were different then so it's understandable. I however tell my son daily that I love him because our kids are not the same as us when we were kids. They need a lot of affirmation... We adapt to the changes of life..
lulombalz - True, my mom is not one to utter these words either, but shes done a lot for us, she always puts us 1st, i guess thats where i learnt that action speaks louder than words
mamusizwerala - Yhoooo, I know the pain this lady is going through. That's why I decided that, with my kids I will always tell them that I love them. I won't just expect them to know because I provide for them. I tell them every day, I love them! Yes, actions speak louder than words, but words too have a place in one's heart.
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