- Michelle Obama admitted her marriage was rocky right after the girls were born
- She attended therapy sessions and realised it was not her husband's responsibility to make her happy
- The author added that at the end of the day, Barack was her friend and she was reminded why she fell in love with him
Former US first lady Michelle Obama has admitted that her marriage, like most marriages, is not perfect and requires hard work, love and dedication.
The mother of two disclosed she and retired US president Barrack Obama went through a rough patch right after their girls were born.
Speaking to Oprah, the author said her marriage was deep in the dumps and she decided to seek counselling to try and save it.
She and Obama attended couple’s therapy and after numerous sessions, they learnt how to navigate their relationship.
One lesson Michelle learned was her happiness was her own responsibility and she was also not in charge of her husband’s joy.
She also discovered she and the former president were different individuals who needed to celebrate and recognise their uniqueness before focussing on each other.
The bubbly lady admitted marriage is hard and raising a family is also harder than it seems.
The 56-year-old beauty said counselling is key in marriage as couples often need an objective person to hear them out.
“It taught me that I was responsible for my own happiness. I did not marry Barack for him to make me happy. No one can make me happy. If I am going to show up equal in this partnership, I have to be able to make myself happy and so I had to stop focusing on what he was not doing and start thinking about how to carve out the life that I wanted for myself, with or without Barack,” she said.
Michelle and Barack have been married for 28 years.
The former first lady pointed out her marriage was built on friendship and that always reminded her to stick by the man who was her friend before being her partner.
“We went through a tough time, we did some hard things together. But now we are out on the other end and I can look at him and I still recognise my husband. He is still the man I fell in love with,” Michelle added.
As earlier reported, the retired FLOTUS said she and her husband also struggled to comfortably transition to empty nesters.
After their daughters went off to college, the duo cried and tried their best to embrace their new reality.
She also joked about how Obama is a huge crybaby who gets carried away whenever his daughters achieve any milestones, like graduating.
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