- Emmanuel Kwakye-Agyekum and his wife have an amazing marriage
- He shares how he and his wife have overcome the challenges that their relationship faced
- They keep an open line of communication for the important things in their lives
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Emmanuel Kwakye-Agyekum, his family is originally from Ghana, shared a story on Facebook on the #ImStaying group.
His story is one of love and romance and how he makes it work with his wife, who as he puts it "happens to have substantially less melanin than me".
He admits that love in normal circumstances is hard enough but an interracial marriage is living life on hard mode.
"Because race and other associated topics are such an obvious difference, we kinda had to tackle that before we crossed the proverbial dating Rubicon. We knew it wasn’t going to be easy, especially in the South African context."
He explains it brilliantly, his wife and he have a clear line of communication about everything.
"So for my wife and I, right from the start we established an open and honest line of communication about this difficult topic and many others like it."
He and his wife discuss all the difficult topics that challenge their relationship.
"Religion, culture, family, gender rolls, finance and children, are but a few."
Here is his full story:
"I was born in Ghana but wasn’t raised there. My family and I found ourselves in South Africa when my Dad’s career brought us here. We fell in love with this country. My Dad’s work kept him working as an expat all over the world but the rest of the family learned very quickly to call South Africa home so we remained. Even when attempts were made to immigrate and join my dad wherever he was, everyone ended up returning to South Africa. Every place on God’s green earth has reasons not to stay, you gotta focus on the reasons to stay and the place will consume your heart."
"I also fell in love with a beautiful South African girl, who just so happens to have substantially less melanin than me (but then again, in my case, that’s not very difficult ) and we are blessed with two beautiful children."
"Yeah, love conquers all but as with every successful conquest in history, it’s important to have a sober understanding and appreciation of the probable challenges that you will come across. Because race and other associated topics are such an obvious difference, we kinda had to tackle that before we crossed the proverbial dating Rubicon. We knew it wasn’t going to be easy, especially in the South African context."
"So for my wife and I, right from the start we established an open and honest line of communication about this difficult topic and many others like it. Race isn’t the only tough and uncomfortable discussion that couples have to have with each other in this day and age: religion, culture, family, gender rolls, finance and children, are but a few. I believe that in any healthy relationship (irrespective of its racial composition), the communication channels will naturally exist for all difficult conversations to be had in a safe and healthy forum and dealt with."
We’ve been together for over 11 years, married for over 6 years and we’ve never been happier.
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Facebook users loved the post and shared their thoughts on Emmanuel's wise words:
Jenny Myers Katz: "I loved the intelligent, sensible and loving tone of your post. Thank you for sharing and god bless ❤️"
Mankge Rakgoale Grace: "Such a beautiful family!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you for sharing stay blessed "
Sweetness Mdzanga: "Wow beautiful. I've been to Ghana Kumasi was the home of Bafana Bafana Team, during the African Cup. Friendly and humble people."
Keneilwe Marwane: "I love the fact that you've literally covered all the challenges any marriages go through. Very intelligent and informative reading this piece. Lovely and beautiful couple. Marriage is not easy and people around us with their negatives adding to what already the enemy attacks doesn't make it easier but as long as the two involved are comfortable and openly communicate their love to each other and know who they are, nothing, I mean nothing can separate them and instead when we hear stories we just laugh about them and continue enjoying our love. Love is beautiful. Marriage is nice, marriage is beautiful. God bless your family."
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