"Don't be an absent dad," Lupi Ngcayisa challenges black fathers

"Don't be an absent dad," Lupi Ngcayisa challenges black fathers

- Lupi Ngcayisa is part of an advertising campaign by OMO designed to challenge the "absent-father" stereotype

- He believes fathers need to establish routines and play with their children to create bonds

- He says that being a father has helped him establish relationships with his community and colleagues as well as his children

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Lupi Ngcayisa feels that black men are changing the "absent father" stereotype, and are proving that fathers can be nurturers to their children instead of being the aloof provider.

“We’re in a stage in our lives now where I feel there is an appetite for men to go beyond what society has deemed to be the role and responsibility of the man so far as child rearing is concerned,” he said.

Ngcayisa is a father of two. His daughter, Sinesipho, is 23. Before having a second child, he discussed the idea with her.

“I have an incredible relationship with my daughter; she prepared me a great deal for the dad that I am now to Phalo because many lessons were drawn from my relationship with her,“ he said.

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Briefly.co.za discovered Ngcayisa has had to learn things like juggling his hectic work schedule and being able to spend time with his three-year-old son, Phalo.

He considers a regular routine to be essential.

The father and son spend 15-20-minutes of playtime together while listening to their morning song and simultaneously getting ready for work and crèche. The two then have breakfast together and their day begins.

Their afternoon routine varies each day. From walks in the park to sharing sandwiches with those less fortunate than them, to going out for a bite to eat.

Phalo is an intelligent and compassionate child according to his doting dad.

Ngcayisa is one of a group of celebrity fathers taking part in a campaign by detergent brand OMO.

The campaign is aimed at promoting the positive idea of play and abolishing the stereotypes that mothers are the parents who should nurture children.

Actor Thapelo Mokoena and former football star Kaizer Motaung Junior are also involved.

Ngcayisa strongly believes in the message the campaign sends. He fondly recalls days spent picking guavas and eating them until he got sick. He says he’ll never forget the smell of guavas.

“My two fondest memories of my childhood would be picking guavas and the summertime. We used to splash ourselves with water and pretend to be at the beach.”

He goes on to state that having children has taught him a lot of things. It has strengthened his relationship with his community, colleagues and with his children.

“Fatherhood has taught me the true value of partnership, and how to manage them. I say partnership because you cannot dictate to [your child], you negotiate, and you present your argument.”

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Source: Briefly News

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