- A young woman has offered lessons learnt from her failed marriage to tweeps willing to know about the institution
- The woman said that she is not in any way sad that her marriage failed, adding that she is, however, better off
- While many applauded her bravery, others questioned why four-year dating would result in a quick crash
A woman with the Twitter handle @ChiamakaObuekwe has reflected on the wedding she had three years ago and how she is not ashamed that the marriage ended.
In a series of tweets on Monday, December 28, the woman said that there are many things people should know about marriage before they go into it.
@ChiamakaObuekwe said that her marriage only lasted a bit over a year. After her white wedding in January 2018, she parted ways with her husband in February 2019.
She, however, told people that marriage is beautiful and she had a taste of it for the period hers lasted.
@ChiamakaObuekwe shared some lessons on why her home crashed. She mentioned communication, looking out for signs, not going to bed angry, acknowledging the imperfection of one’s partner, and considering one’s mental health among others as great recipes for a lasting relationship.
The young lady wished herself a happy “3rd no-tradiversary”, thanking people for reading her thread.
See her post below:
Below are some of the reactions to her tweets:
"Do allow me to add one more thing to your very detailed counsel and that is 'PRAY TOGETHER'. As trivial as it may seem, it might very well be the most important. Couples must learn to 'PRAY TOGETHER'."
"I need to understand the point where she said 'dont ignore the signs' and where she said 'accept the flaws of your partner cos nobody is perfect' I was thinking it's contradictory but someone can help me understand thanks."
"About 4 years dating. About a year married and then it hit the rocks. This Marriage thing no get particular formula las las."
"You should have spend time planning for your marriage life, instead of planning for your wedding day, marriage comes after wedding. I pray you get it right next time. I am praying for you to find Ur God sent man as husband."
"A lot of people overlook sacrifices and compromises, in the sense that having a win win situation is better than being the winner all the time. Be ready to admit that you cannot be your spouses only source of happiness."
Meanwhile, Briefly.co.za reported that celebrating anniversaries serve as a reminder of how strong and how far a couple has come in a relationship of marriage.
A young man did exactly this when he headed to Facebook's ImStaying to celebrate his eight-year-long marriage.
Danwin Booysen also included a picture of himself and his beautiful wife, adding that the two of them had only spent R900 on the wedding, which is incredibly low compared to the usual amounts people blow on weddings.
"#ImStaying. This year we celebrated 8 years in union, our wedding cost R900. Nothing fancy, today we still grow stronger together. Love of my life," wrote Danwin in the caption of the Facebook post.
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