“I’m Speaking at Another Paradigm”: Relationship Coach on What He’d Do if Wife Cheated, Gets a Laugh

• Bakhe Dlamini, a local relationship coach, shared his unconventional approach to handling infidelity
• He advocates for emotional intelligence over confrontational responses in relationships
• Online reactions revealed diverse opinions on coping with cheating spouses

Marriage and family counsellor Bakhe Dlamini intrigued a crowd when he shared what he would do if he caught his wife being unfaithful with another man. Bakhe's take on the situation sparked a deeper conversation about loyalty in relationships among online viewers.

The relationship expert, who shared a snippet of one of his conferences, uploaded the clip to his Facebook account on 30 March 2026, where he explained that he wouldn't confront the man but rather his wife about the hypothetical infidelity.

"If they were at a hotel, I would stand by the door and say, 'Sithandwa sam (my love), once you are done, meet me at home."

He then addressed his audience, saying:

"I'm speaking at another paradigm. You are used to the paradigm of reacting. Once you beat the other guy, what do you get? After you've made an embarrassment in the hotel, what do you get? Don't react, execute."

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Bakhe pointed out that he has two rights: to execute his constitutional right to file for divorce, identifying that there is a problem in the relationship and seeking assistance from a third party.

Watch what Bakhe had to say in the Facebook video below:

Internet users share their thoughts

Hundreds of people online gathered in the comment section to express their thoughts about how to deal with a cheating spouse.

Sylvester V Mazibuko stated in the comments:

"This is the highest level of emotional intelligence."

Nduna Ya Bolobedu shared their opinion:

"Good advice, but most of the time, it's making decisions immediately while still angry. After all, it's regret, and you can't reverse time to undo it! Let's be careful."

Khetha Gwala told the online community:

"This is my philosophy. When I tell people, they say I'm crazy. I will do the same. I close the door and leave them there."

Willie Ngobeni said to the public:

"Love does not agree with evil; it overcomes it through forgiveness and truth. When love rules in the heart, evil loses its influence."

Colletah Magudugudu wrote their take in the comment section:

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I think the reaction after finding your partner cheating can't be discussed. You don't know how you will feel during and within, so hah, we can't discuss that one."

Pfari Grind Wisdom added:

"I've learned that being confrontational doesn't solve anything; it only leads to more pain and embarrassment."

3 Other stories about unfaithful spouses

• In another article, Briefly News reported that an American digital content creator showed the petty meal she had prepared for her 'cheating' husband.
• A woman shared screenshots of text messages from her cheating boyfriend, who tried to justify his alleged cheating with his bizarre excuses.
• When Rachel and Siya Kolisi announced their divorce, a young woman shared allegations concerning the former couple's marriage, taking the internet by storm.

Source: Briefly News