"I Gave Him an Expensive Gift": SA Lady Spoils Bae on His Birthday, He Disappears on Hers

• A woman got candid about her relationship on social media, and people were shocked by her story
• The stunner revealed how her man disappeared on her on the most important day of her life after everything she did for him
• South Africans were touched by the hun's tale as they rushed to the comments to shower her with heartwarming messages
• Briefly News spoke to a relationship and sex educator, Kelley Nele, on the psychological factors that might contribute to someone disappearing on their birthday

One lady in Mzansi shared how she went above and beyond for her ex-partner, leaving her devastated.

Woman's bae disappears on her birthday

TikTok user @bongie_kumalo opened up about how her man treated her on the day of her birthday, which left her heartbroken. The young lady said that when it was her partner's birthday, she made sure he felt special.

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@bongie_kumalo noted the following:

"Smiling because life did not end when I spoiled him on his birthday. Took him hiking, spa treatment, picnic setup and an expensive gift."

But when it came to her birthday, the gent disappeared and was nowhere to be found.

Take a look at the woman's video.

Psychological factors that might contribute to someone disappearing on their partner's birthday

Nothing is more disheartening than the person you love disappearing on your special day. Relationship and sex educator Kelley Nele told Briefly News that there are various reasons why a partner could go MIA.

"There are several reasons that depend on the relationship and how long it has existed. If there are no relationship issues, then it may be a case of negligence (forgetfulness). In other cases, some people generally don’t make a fuss about birthdays (including their own) because of their upbringing," she said."

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Kelley went on to explain by adding:

"Like in the case of someone who grew up in a low-income household where their parents weren’t very attentive. People like this don’t understand the hype around birthdays, so they tend not to do anything, including wishing their loved ones a happy birthday."

The relationship expert expressed that when one is not celebrated on their special day, they could feel "undervalued and feel as though their partner is selfish or doesn’t love them." They also begin to question whether their needs are "valid" and if they’re in the right relationship.

"Not doing anything for their partner, treating their special day like a normal day, and the biggest sign would be if they don’t care about their own special day as well," Nele said.

People react to the lady's story

The woman's story touched many online users as they flooded her comments section, expressing their thoughts while others shared their experiences.

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S’vunguvungu shared:

"He left me a week before my birthday... Kanti I was gonna meet the husband a week after my birthday. Life has a funny way of doing things."

Xolly wrote:

"I stopped doing things for him on his birthdays because I’m tired of not getting anything in return."

Miiranda_mt6 could relate:

"Sorry, nono. This happened to me, but thank God I just bought him a wallet and snacks nje with another man’s money ke poff."

Amos expressed:

"Sorry to hear that but everything will be fine very soon."

Sibusiwisa added:

"I dumped him way before mine because part of me knows when mine comes, he'll definitely ruin it."

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Briefly News previously reported that a South African woman was left devastated by her partner on the day of their lobola. She shared her story on social media, which left peeps in shock.

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One hun who goes by the TikTok handle @bownie_segage uploaded a screenshot of her WhatsApp text with her bae. The young lady waiting patiently for her man to show up ghosted her on their big day, leaving the hun shattered.

Source: Briefly News