SA Woman Shares Heartbreaking Family Dispute, Son Takes Back Everything He Gave to His Mom

• A woman shared a heartbreaking story that left many South Africans shaken on social media
• The hun revealed how her brother acted toward their mother, which led her to step up for her
• Briefly News takes a look at healthy ways in which family could resolve their issues and more
• Lay counsellor and emotional support expert Astrid Daries spoke to Briefly News about how families can approach conflict resolution in emotionally charged situations

One young lady in Mzansi opened up about her heated family dispute, which took social media by storm after a son reportedly took back everything he had ever given his mother, leaving many South Africans divided over the matter.

Son takes back everything he gave to his mom

The young lady who goes by the TikTok handle @phashaandanie revealed that her brother one day decided to take everything which he had brought for her mother, leaving the mom with nothing.

In the now-viral video, the woman can be seen purchasing furniture, appliances, and even groceries for her mother’s home. @phashaandanie did not disclose what led to the fallout between her brother and mom.

The incident led to @phashaandanie having to step up for her mother, and in the TikTok clip, she showcased how she took her shopping to buy new things for the house. She added that she had to take her savings to do so.

"I bought a new Toyota, and we are moving to our house that I built for her," said @phashaandanie."

The footage went on to become a viral hit on the internet, gathering many views along with thousands of likes and shares.

Watch the clip below:

How to heal family conflicts and offer support

Briefly News spoke to a lay counsellor and emotional support expert, Astrid Daries, about how families can approach conflict resolution in emotionally charged situations. The emotional support expert said that in any family, healthy boundaries are essential to maintaining respectful and supportive relationships, especially between parents and children.

"While many adult children may feel a strong desire to provide for their parents, this may not always be possible due to personal or financial limitations. In such cases, open and honest communication becomes crucial. It is important for the child to express their capacity with empathy and clarity, helping the parent understand that the inability to provide is not a matter of unwillingness, but rather a matter of circumstance," said Astrid.

She added that family dynamics can be complex, particularly when expectations are unspoken or unmet. Misunderstandings may arise and strain relationships, but with mutual respect and communicated boundaries, families can navigate these challenges.

"When both parents and children create space for open dialogue—where feelings, limitations, and needs are acknowledged without judgment—the healing process can begin, and connections can be strengthened rather than broken."

Healthy ways for families to resolve their issues

In many African households, gifts to parents are seen as acts of gratitude and not loans to be revoked.

According to TalktoAngel (2024), establishing a secure space for open discussion where each family member feels valued and heard is essential to effective conflict resolution. It is essential for people to actively listen, which involves focusing entirely and uninterruptedly on comprehending the speaker's point of view, Verywell Mind, 2024 website suggests.

Tensions can be defused by using "I" statements to constructively convey wants and feelings while concentrating on the problem rather than placing blame on specific people (TalktoAngel, 2024).

Establishing a secure space for candid dialogue where each family member feels valued and heard is essential to effective conflict resolution (TalktoAngel, 2024). It is essential for people to actively listen, which involves focusing entirely and uninterruptedly on comprehending the speaker's point of view (Verywell Mind, 2024). Tensions can be de-escalated by using "I" statements to constructively convey wants and sentiments while concentrating on the problem rather than placing blame on specific people (TalktoAngel, 2024).

Collaborative problem-solving involves family members working together to find mutually acceptable solutions, often involving compromise and acknowledging strengths. Breaks during heated moments can prevent escalation.

Addressing underlying conflict causes, conducting regular family meetings, and seeking guidance from a family therapist are crucial for long-term resolution and effective communication.

More heartbreaking family stories

• Briefly News reported that one young man got candid about the emotional strain his family caused him by their lack of support as he narrated his story in a video.
• One mother was left heartbroken by her son as she took to TikTok to share her story, which touched the online community.
• A young woman tugged at South Africa's heartstrings after sharing a video about not having a family home to return to if she ever fell on hard times.

Source: Briefly News