“You Need Help”: SA Warns Lady After Living by Husband’s Rules to Tone Down Appearance in Viral Clip

• A Mzansi TikTokker shared a role-play of the kind of women who would do anything to stay with a man
• Malaika made sure to keep her act as realistic as possible by being accurate about her information 
• Social media users barely realised that the lady was only sharing an example of the type of women who sacrifice a lot for marriage 
• Briefly News spoke to a certified Imago Relationship Therapy Educator, Paula Quinsee on whether or not the boyfriend’s behaviour was a green flag

A young South African lady rocked women when she appeared to have sacrificed a lot to stay in her marriage.

Malaikaa shared an accurate role-play of how some ladies will allow their men to dictate their every move just to save their relationship.

SA warns lady after living by husband's rules to tone down 

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A woman on TikTok went viral after she produced an accurate role-play of the wives who allow their husbands to dictate their lives. Malaikaa listed all the things the wife will have to give up to keep their relationships afloat.

Some ladies just cannot bring themselves to leave their toxic relationships even when the red flags become prominent. She tackled how women's appearance threatens the men and forbids them from wearing:

• Wigs
• Nails
• Makeup 
• Eyelashes 

The new wife must only wear a headscarf on her head, wear nail polish, and always keep a clean face. Malaikaa's clip showed how men contradict themselves.

They are often attracted to the baddies who wear the artificial materials only to force them to strip down after they marry them. Makaikaa captioned her post:

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"These types of women are hilarious."

Watch the video below:

Mzansi reacts to toxic masculinity in TikTok video 

Briefly News got to chat with a certified Imago Relationship Therapy Educator, Paula Quinsee on whether or not the boyfriend’s behaviour was healthy:

“When someone enters a relationship, they expect to be loved and appreciated for who they are, including how they present themselves. Requesting significant changes in a partner’s appearance after the relationship has been formed can cause conflict and resentment, especially if it is a far step from who they are naturally.

“Before making demands, it's important for couples to have open conversations about their preferences, concerns, and feelings. If a man is uncomfortable with how his partner dresses, it’s important to explore the reasons behind this, such as insecurity, external pressure, or deeper relationship concerns.

"Any request to change how someone expresses themselves should come from a place of care and consideration, not control or coercion. Ultimately, the decision should empower the individual, allowing them to feel confident and respected in the relationship.”

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Social media users were familiar with the accurate scenario and pointed out the early red flags:

@ℭ𝔥𝔢𝔩𝔰𝔢𝔞 🇵🇸 saw nothing romantic about the relationship:

"May this kind of love never locate me."

@Oranyzer explained:

"It's what attracted him at first mos. He doesn't want other men to see you as mine did. Ae men! Never lose yourself to anyone."

@Pallie Wale 🇿🇦🇨🇩🇵🇸 advised the lady to prepare for the storm while there's still time:

"Keep a separate bank account that he doesn't have access to and important papers at your mom's house. This is how it starts."

@Tinadj beauty shamed the husband:

"Too many rules with that kind of ring."

@Chola c lungu highlighted:

"This man wants to humble you."

@Anna🫦 warned the lady:

"My sister, it's a trap; don't do it, talking from experience."

@Not Here was floored:

"The tiny ring on your finger is hilarious, You are hilarious."

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@Cwengile commented:

"Blink twice if you need help."

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Briefly News also reported that Natasha Tshabalala shared a TikTok video revealing the hurtful things and abuse she suffered in her marriage. She detailed controlling behaviour, emotional manipulation, and even a suicide attempt.

Speaking to Briefly News, Life Coach Penny Holburn unpacked the various reasons why women may stay in unhealthy relationships. Her story resonated with many South African women who shared their own experiences.

Source: Briefly News