It was an unconventional setting. Picture the scene: A room filled with women from all walks of life, different ages, races and backgrounds, all listening to celebrity polygamist, Musa Mseleku's life story.
This is no imaginary event. Nope, this actually happened.
Musa was a guest speaker at the Stonecroft Morning Tea, an event held monthly at the Port Shepstone Country Club. Stonecroft Ministries is a non-denominational, non-profit Christian organisation providing global leadership in women’s ministry.
So, it was an unconventional setting to see a polygamist talk about his life and lifestyle.
But, the charming and charismatic Musa not only spoke about his four wives and 10 children, but also provided many laughs, insight into his family's lifestyle and what it means to be truly polygamists.
Musa, who grew up in a rural part of Port Shepstone, on the KwaZulu-Natal South Coast, is the first man in his family to follow the polygamist lifestyle.
Wife 1: MaCele Busisiwe Mseleku
Musa explained he saw his first wife, MaCele Busisiwe Mseleku, walking in Port Shepstone. The first time he laid eyes on her, he knew he wanted to be her husband.
At first, she shrugged him off, but his persistence eventually paid off and the couple said their vows.
Polygamy was something that always interested him, so, when he asked for his first wife's hand in marriage, he told her he planned on being polygamist.
"At the time, I don't think I emphasised my intentions. My first wife probably hoped I would change my mind. But, for me it was all about growth."
When he then suggested to MaCele that they take another partner, Musa gave his wife the space she needed and when she agreed, the hunt began.
"It's not as easy as just asking another woman to marry you. I had to ask MaCele's family, friends and the people in the church for their permission too."
Wife 2: MaYeni Nokhukhanya Mseleku
Nokukhanya Yeni took Musa's breath away with her angelic voice:
"My second wife sang at a function my aunty had. Her voice just blew me away and I knew straight away that I wanted her to be my second wife."
Wife 3: MaKhumalo Thobile Mseleku
His 3rd wife, Thobile Khumalo, was a young girl he knew from his hometown.
"I liked her a lot and while she was in school, I would often ask her to marry me, but she would always say no.
"She was a shy and humble young girl, but when I asked her to marry me, she would sternly say no. I liked this fighting spirit. I also enjoy a challenge."
MaKhumalo Thobile Mseleku was 18 when they married.
Wife 4: MaNgwabe Mbali Mseleku
His fourth wife, Mbali Ngwabe, is a nurse.
"I nearly missed her. I saw her every day when I dropped my kids off at creche. Eventually, I made contact. She's so beautiful," Musa added.
But, the polygamist maintains he has no favourite wife.
"I am always asked if I have a favourite. I don't. Each of my wives have such different personalities. I relate to each of them differently, so it's hard to have a favourite."
Is there a 5th wife on the way?
When asked if a fifth wife is on the way, Musa said he is trying his best to convince all his wives to take a fifth sister-wife.
According to Musa, to of his wives are for the idea, while the other two disagree. He did not mention who agreed and who didn't, but said he has to respect their choice and hope they will eventually change their minds.
About Stonecroft Ministries:
Stonecroft Ministries' mission is to "equip and encourage women to impact their communities with the Gospel of Jesus Christ."
Founded by Helen Duff Baugh in 1938 and now headquartered in Kansas City, Missouri, Stonecroft Ministries provides training and contemporary tools across the globe to develop and sharpen volunteers’ leadership skills.
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