Psychologist Says Women Who Unknowingly Date Married Men May Be Desperate
- Counselling psychologist Benjamin Zulu opines that women who claim to not know they are dating married men could be doing so from a point of desperation
- According to him, most usually see the telltale signs but overlook them because their minds are focused on the companionship or financial benefits they are receiving
- According to those who commented, men have a way of behaving single and that when the lady picks the signals, they lie about a pending divorce with the wife
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Counselling psychologist Benjamin Zulu has suggested that side chics who continue dating men without knowing that they are married may be desperate.
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According to him, it was difficult to believe that a woman can date a man for months and not see the telltale signs which point to him being married.
"You must be remarkably gullible. Unless the said marriage is essentially dead, no man can hide daily communication with his family for so long if you are actually in his life," he wrote.
He adds that the only way to explain the phenomenon is that the woman was either too eager to be in a relationship or is ready and willing to be in any union as long as it guarantees her emotional or financial support.
According to the men and women who descended on his post, men have a way of behaving single and that when the lady picks the signals, they lie about a pending divorce with the wife.
"You do not know these Nairobi men. I came to realise my ex-boyfriend had two houses, both furnished and rent paid appropriately," wrote a lady identified as Liz.
A cross-section of those who commented opined that women can tell a married man even if he tries to cover his tracks.
They, however, blame the continued behaviour on the fact that the moral fabric of society has been ravaged by modernity.
That has made women want men who are financially and emotionally stable, which stops them from bothering to know more about them.
Meanwhile, Briefly News reported a 39-year-old man identified as Takashi Miyagawa has been arrested for dating 35 girlfriends at the same time and defrauding them.
The Japanese man fooled the 35 women to believe he loved them to get gifts for his fake birthdays. According to New York Post, Takashi told each of his "girlfriends" that his birthday fell on a different date so he could receive a lot of gifts at the end of the year.
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