“The Pain in Your Eyes”: SA Lady Breaks Down After Falling Out of Love With Boyfriend

• A woman on TikTok broke down after forcing herself to stay with a man she fell out of love with
• Katlego Phiri explained that the thought of starting a new relationship with someone else is what makes it hard for her to leave her partner 
• Social media users understood her situation and consoled her in the comments section
• A relationship expert, Paula Quinsee, explained to Briefly News that wanting your partner to abide by your rules is not always healthy

A young South African lady shared her sob story of being unable to leave her partner on TikTok.

Katlego Phiri broke down as she explained her fear of starting over if she were to break up with her current boyfriend.

SA lady breaks down after falling out of love with boyfriend

Falling in love is one of the best feelings humans can experience. The escapism sets one on a high as they get to know a stranger.

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Unfortunately, the spark could die down, but nobody really prepares for that during the rosy days. A young South African lady filmed herself with puffy eyes to explain her sob story of not being able to leave her partner.

Katlego Phiri hinted that she had fallen out of love with her boyfriend, but she could not bring herself to leave him because she feared having to start afresh with someone else:

"Getting to know a new person is just so hard, guys. I just don't want to do it…I honestly just stay because I don't want to start afresh, but every day, I feel like I don't want to do this anymore."

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Briefly News reached out to a relationship expert, Paula Quinsee, to better understand the importance of a partner forcing themselves to be in a relationship:

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“Being expected to follow rules in a relationship can have a negative impact as it suggests that one partner exerts control over the other. Healthy relationships involve partners equally responsible for co-creating mutual respect, understanding, and safety in their relationship, not control or dominance. When one partner is forced into submission, it creates a power imbalance, leaving a partner feeling unsafe, unheard, and not valued.

“If someone is seeking such a partner, it would be important to understand the underlying factors driving this behaviour, such as needing control or dominance, a desire for deeper emotional intimacy and trust, whether it is a customary tradition, and whether there are behavioural factors such as low self-esteem.

“Any relationship should not be built on coercion, manipulation, or an unequal power dynamic, rather mutual roles that allow both partners to express themselves freely while respecting each other’s boundaries and autonomy.”

Social media users sympathised with the lady and commented:

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@Botshelo Maleka commented:

"Stay, my love, until you can't take it anymore. Trust me, you'll get there."

@Max Maponyane advised:

"Don't. Your time will come when you get the strength to leave. It's hard to leave, but staying kills a lot of you inside, emotionally, mentally, etc."

@Duduzile Shushu explained:

"It took me a year to leave. It took months of therapy and two years of being single to get back to being myself again. Sending you all the love."

@BRIANNE MCENTEE comforted the lady by sharing her story of letting go:

"I left after 18 years. It was hard at first, but now I'm at peace, single and enjoying my life."

@Kay ❤️ shared:

"A lot of people are in relationships because they're too scared of being alone. A better relationship awaits you."

@miss.chaka begged the woman to calm down:

"Please stop crying, mama."

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@Thandi -We Love felt the lady's pain:

"The pain in your eyes, it takes me back there. Don't worry, you will leave best believe that."

Girl sets boyfriend's room ablaze after messy breakup over cheating

Briefly News a teenage girl has set her boyfriend's house on fire after he broke up with her for cheating on him. The girl had gone to ask him for money when the messy breakup happened at his workplace.

The jilted girlfriend proceeded to the boyfriend's house while he was still at work and set it ablaze.

Source: Briefly News