- The hashtag #LobolaOrProposalFirst has been trending on South African Twitter streets since early this morning
- Many used the trending hashtag to share their thoughts around whether or not lobola should be paid before or after a proposal
- While some were of the opinion that proposals should come before lobola gets paid, others believe that meeting with families over lobola was a proposal
Traditional weddings and their customs can sometimes be confusing. This has been made increasingly clear as a new hashtag was born in South African Twitter streets to clarify whether proposals should come before lobola is paid in traditional wedding arrangements.
#LobolaOrProposalFirst has been trending all morning in Mzansi as locals both wondered and shared their thoughts out loud about what should happen first when a couple wants to wed traditionally.
While many were of the opinion that the proposal should come before the lobola is paid, others thought that paying lobola is a way of finalising the proposal without actually proposing to a woman.
Read a few of their thoughts below:
"Telling your woman that you intend to send your family to hers on a particular date is our way of engagement as Africans. After paying lobola, we’re married. The other fancy stuff that comes after is just for InstagramFace with tears of joyFace with tears of joy#LobolaOrProposalFirst."
"I don't understand African people who do proposals, thina ama Africans siyalobola and that is our proposal, yekani ukuba amathatha ukuthanda izinto eningazazi nokungesizo ezenu. #LobolaOrProposalFirst."
"You have to propose first. If I agree then you can institute lobola proceedings. You can't lobola someone who hasn't agreed to your proposal. #LobolaOrProposalFirst"
"Turning down a marriage proposal is not the end of a relationship. It simply means that there are things that need to be fixed in that relationship before taking the next step.#LobolaOrProposalFirst"
Briefly.co.za previously reported that a new day is upon us and so is a new hashtag that South Africans are using to express themselves. Hundreds of locals have been using the hashtag #MyFamilyOnceSaid to speak about the things that they were told by their beloved family.
While some families offered words of advice about life, careers, and relationships, other families have told their loved ones lies, sold them dreams and also broke their hearts with their choice of words.
While some were downright ridiculous and somewhat hilarious, many of them were quite sad. Briefly.co.za took some time to explore the various tweets that were made using the trending hashtag.
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