I Said No to Marriage, Travelled to Canada for My PhD Instead: Nigerian Woman Shares Story, Stirs Reactions

I Said No to Marriage, Travelled to Canada for My PhD Instead: Nigerian Woman Shares Story, Stirs Reactions

  • A Nigerian woman, Adeola Olumbamiji, has said that she left a man who proposed to her to chase her PhD in Canada
  • After their long-distance relationship suffered and people started telling her she would never see a man for marriage, she faced her life squarely
  • Adeola's decision to build her life and get a doctorate degree finally paid off as she met another man who she married

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A Nigerian woman, Adeola Olumbamiji, on Sunday, February 6, gone on Twitter to narrate how she chose to go for her PhD in Canada.

While in Finland she met a student and they fell in love. They were both working as cleaners. The decision to move to Canada came when she got funding for her PhD.

Many people think she is selfish.
The woman had a problem dating after leaving the man. Image: @DrOlubamiji
Source: Twitter

I chose my PhD instead

According to Adeola, the man proposed to her as a way to keep her from going. She had to accept his proposal to make the man feel good.

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However, she told him that he would have to get himself to Canada if he really wants her. With the burden of a long-distance relationship after she left, their relationship took a hit.

There were many regrets

While studying for her PhD, the woman said:

“A few years into my PhD program, people starting telling me that no one will marry me with a PhD. And when I tried to date, the guy was told by his friends and family that I will be too smart for him. I cried many nights and I was legit afraid. I was full of regrets.”

Adeola had to face many ridicules until she decided to cut toxic people out and just face her PhD and life. Years on, the right man came and they got married.

The woman said:

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“Lastly, any destiny-stopper that want to use marriage to stop your progress, May Holy Ghost fire consume them and their plots! You deserve to have kids when you can take care of them. Any gossiping family members putting pressure on you, may God silence them!”

Below are some reactions:

@addel_cares said:

"Everything you just wrote shows how selfish you are on your parts, at first, you were processing your admission you didn't inform him, if you loved him, you both can plan it and still move, I was about living too, I told my girlfriend this is my plan,we did it together & moved."

@EmoryEmman said:

"Nice story. But you need to read in between the lines of what you posted. Self centeredness, Kinda shows you weren't/aren't yet matured enough for a relationship. What if the tables were turned and it's the guy travelling for his PHD, will the story be valid?"

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@FelixOlufade said:

"Weldon ma. If you had missed this Canada PHD because of Marriage or belle, you for show that brother the meaning of 'Wife from Hell'."

Man travelled to meet girlfriend

Meanwhile, Briefly News earlier reported that a Nigerian man in a viral video posted by @gossipmilltv said that after he deliberately pissed his girlfriend off, he paid her a surprise visit.

Despite facing a six-hour flight delay, he boarded a plane down to Delta state to see her in Warri. He said that his act shows that Edo men are romantic.

After the reality that he was there sunk in, she rushed back out and hugged the man, all the while grinning.

Source: Briefly News

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