No Contact Celebration: Loving Mom Supports Daughter Through Breakup Journey in Viral Video
- A South African woman posted a video showing how he mother supported her through a breakup
- A video by @_you.wana shows her mother helping her celebrate not contacting her ex
- The video garnered many views and comments online as netizens gushed over the mother's support
- Relationship Therapy Educator Paula Quinsee shared why no contact is important during the healing period after a breakup
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Going through a breakup can be hard and bring a wave of confusing and unexpected emotions. Thankfully for @_you.wana, she doesn't have to go through it alone.
The young woman posted a TikTok video which shows herself and her mother holding a candle-lit cupcake as they celebrate @_you.wana not contacting her ex for significant period of time.
The two are seen all smiles as they pose for the camera and hug each other.
"POV: Your mom celebrates no contact with you... Love her sm," @_you.wana said in her post.
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The video warmed many netizens' hearts as they responded with sweet and supportive messages. Others shared how they were also on the same journey of healing from heartbreaks and not contacting their exes.
the special entertainment replied:
"I did 5 months no contact on Tuesday. So proud of myself and you too chommie❤️."
ona commented:
"When we broke up I told my mom to stop greeting himand she never did again, because how can you hurt me so much and greet my mom? Absolutely not."
T.O.B replied:
"Kanti we celebrate such? I should've celebrated two years ago."
Mish Mish reacted:
"This is too cute ."
Treciamngomezulu said:
"Next Friday will be three months angi gowi angi gowi ."
lihleeee responded:
"I'm on my 6th month of no contact ."
Bontle Msimango replied:
"I would really love to reach this stage. It just hurts cause he literally was my best friend, and we fell apart ."
Relationship expert weighs in on importance of no contact
Certified Relationship Therapy Educator and founder of Engaged Human, Paula Quinsee, shared that ending a relationship is never easy. Many experience a roller coaster of emotions while healing.
"The best way of coping is by breaking all ties/contact with an ex for a periods of time to be able to heal and move on."
She also touched on the psychological significance of establishing no contact after the end of a relationship.
"Establishing no contact with an ex is a powerful way to set boundaries which can help to close the chapter and end of the relationship and preventing any further emotional enmeshment or bonding.Giving one time apart helps the brain to rewire itself from the patterns and habits formed during a relationship (e.g. daily routine and rituals experienced as a couple) helping with the tolerance of new routines and habits in the process while shifting from a we to a me."
Paula highlighted how one could also cope with the period of sticking to the decision of no contact.
"Keep yourself busy and engaged by trying out new hobbies or resurrecting old ones, embarking on a health journey such as exercise, investing into your work or career or volunteer activities. Keeping busy can help to distract you from the urge to contact your ex-partner and fill the void left by your breakup."
Going through a breakup requires one to have a support structure in place.
"Put support structures in place that you can lean into such as friends, family, or a therapist. They canhelp you process your emotions and experiences which can provide some level of comfort and validationas you work through the grieving process" she added.
She further advised one to try to avoid places, songs, movies, or social media that might trigger memories of the ex-partner as this can lead to emotional setbacks and prolong the healing journey.
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Paula Quinsee (Certified Relationship Therapy Educator and founder of Engaged Humans) Paula Quinsee is the founder of Engaged Humans, facilitating connection between individuals and organisations to create a more human-connected world. She is a certified Imago Relationship Therapy educator and facilitator, NLP practitioner, PDA analyst, coach and trainer. Paula is also the author of two self-help guides - Embracing Conflict and Embracing No - as well as an international speaker, advocate for mental health and activist for gender-based violence.
