“She’s Gone Through the Most”: SA Supports Rachel Following Siya Documentary
- A woman on TikTok unpacked her concerns about the unsettling news of Rachel and Siya Kolisi's divorce
- Okuhle revisited an old documentary where Rachel discussed the struggles she faced in her relationship with the captain
- Social media users picked the ex-wife's side and discussed the breakup that caused disarray in the country
- Briefly News spoke to a trusted clinical psychologist about how unresolved childhood trauma can show up in one’s adult life
- A professional relationship therapist also discussed how ignored red flags show up later in the relationship
South Africa was shocked after their golden couple called it quits and posted a statement on social media.
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Mzansi will never forget the evening of Tuesday, the 22nd of October when Rachel and Siya Kolisi dropped the bomb of their sudden divorce.
SA picks Rachel's side after divorce news
A woman on TikTok claimed to have seen the Kolisi split coming after watching Siya's documentary, Rise: The Siya Kolisi Story. Okuhle shared that the captain's victorious rugby tale overshadowed Rachel's truth:
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"The things that Rachel had to go through. The cheating. All of these things were addressed in the documentary, but people were too busy focusing on the rugby story…people looked over all of the things that Rachel was talking about and the things that she had to go through to make the marriage work."
Okuhle suggested that Rachel was praised by Mzansi for enduring the pain of her marriage struggles and turning Siya into a God-fearing man. The lady explained that the captain admitted to loving Rachel because of all she was willing to endure during their union.
The woman highlighted that Siya Kolisi's childhood trauma is what led to the couple's divorce:
"He has a very complicated relationship with his father because he was not there for him during his childhood."
Watch the video below:
Mzansi reacts to Rachel and Siya Kolisi's divorce
A trusted clinical psychologist, Vuyolwethu Tuluma, shared the different ways childhood trauma can show up in one’s adult life:
“Childhood trauma profoundly impacts adulthood, often manifesting in various emotional, relational and psychological challenges.”
Here are some common ways it shows up:
- Attachment and Relationship issues
- Difficulty with emotional regulation.
- Addiction and self-destructive behaviour
- Trust issues and hypervigilance
- Low self-esteem and shame
Relationship therapist Paula Quinsee told Briefly News that red flags are evident in the beginning stages and can resurface even more prominently later, especially when the honeymoon phase fades:
“During the early phase of a relationship, people often overlook or justify behaviours that can lead to serious issues down the line. When these red flags do surface again down the line, the initial excitement and novelty of the relationship have worn off, so they can feel like big betrayals if they were previously ignored.”
The best way to approach this is by practicing the following:
- Address the red flags directly and early on in the relationship - addressing them when they first appear gives both partners a chance to understand and improve, and it’s easier to have open discussions about concerns early on, setting the tone for communication going forward.
- Seek an objective perspective - talking to a trusted friend, family member or even a professional can help bring perspective and clarity where emotions may be clouding your judgment.
- Set boundaries and uphold them- ignoring boundaries can lead to a loss of self in the relationship, long-term resentment, and ultimately, an impact on mental and emotional well-being.
“A healthy relationship consists of two individuals who are able to retain their individuality, but come together with the intention to co-create the ‘us, we ours’ which is what forms the foundation of the relationship.”
Social media users were pained by the sudden breakup and commented:
@🌺Hope_Full highlighted:
"Honestly, if we put ourselves first, we won't get married or have kids."
@Sugar commented:
"Siya wouldn't be what he is without Rachel; she definitely did well."
@Medusa shared:
"I remember a time when Rachel was trending on Twitter for confronting another woman for her affair with Siya. She's gone through the most."
@being an Uppity African commented:
"We know nothing about the documentary."
@Lovely_Liswa realised:
"For the first time in our country, we support Rachel not because she is white but because she seems and acts like a classy lady, warm mother, and welcoming soul."
@NQO🇿🇦🇦🇪 shared:
"They say the same issues you face at the earliest stages of a relationship are the same ones that will end your marriage."
@Londeka Londay Dlami explained:
"You can't love a broken man's pain away. It will be all in vain if he doesn't acknowledge his brokenness."
What you need to know about Rachel Kolisi
The well-known fitness trainer was born on June 2, 1990, and raised in Grahamstown, a small town in the Eastern Cape. She grew up with two siblings, a brother and a sister. After finishing her primary education at a local school, Rachel and her family moved to Cape Town.
She completed matric in 2008 and pursued studies in events management at Stellenbosch Hotel School, later working as a marketing and events coordinator. In addition to her advocacy for empowerment, Rachel has openly discussed her battles with depression. On Mpoomy Ledwaba's vlog, she revealed that she had made several suicide attempts during her youth.
Xhosa elders discuss ways to fix Kolisi marriage
Briefly News also reported that a funny gent on TikTok acted fast after the news of Rachel and Siya Kolisi getting divorced broke yesterday evening. Ikho made Mzansi laugh after creating a skit where a Xhosa mom called her friend to discuss ways to fix the ex-lovers' marriage.
Social media users found the skit to be hilarious and accurate as they roared with laughter in the comments.
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