South African Woman Cries in the Car After Daughter Asks Why Deadbeat Dad "Hates" Them

• A lady shared a heartbreaking story of her child on social media and the clip went viral online
• She opened up about her deadbeat baby daddy, and the video gained massive attraction on TikTok
• The mom's story touched people as they rushed to the comments section to shower them with heartwarming messages
• Briefly News spoke to psychologist and relationship expert Penny Holburn, who shared the emotional impacts on a child when a parent is absent or uninvolved in significant life events

A South African mother opened up about her daughter and the situation with the deadbeat father.

Her story left many people in their feelings.

Woman cries in the car after daughter asks her why deadbeat dad 'hates' them

One lady who goes by the TikTok handle @joaly_mn got candid with her viewers. The mother shared that her daughter was crying because she expected her father to say "congratulations" to her as she was about to graduate; however, the man did not bother.

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Seeing her child crying affected her so profoundly that she, too, went to cry in her car. @joaly_mn said her daughter asked her why their dad "hates" them so much. The mom went on to say that her son, who is the youngest, was sick and was discharged from the hospital after having "RSV complications" where he needed oxygen support.

@joaly_mn expressed that her daughter could not fathom how, with everything that was going on with her little brother, he could not even call to ask how he was doing, and the only time he called was to insult the mother of his kids.

"God is your restorer. Rest if you may, cry if you may, but do not give up. And know that already God made a way and that God himself said congratulations and he is providing and standing with mama to help mama provide," she told her daughter before she left to go and cry in the car.

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She also advised her daughter to read Psalm 23 and encouraged everyone on the internet to rest but not give up. She said people should "accept and do not expect" from others as they could let them down, but always look up to God as he is constant and never changing.

Watch the video below:

The emotional impacts on a child when a parent is absent or uninvolved in significant life events

While speaking to Briefly News, psychologist and relationship expert Penny Holburn said that a parent's absence could result in a child being "unhappy" or even feeling "rejected" by the absent parent. This could lead to the child "feeling not good enough or feeling that there is something wrong with them," she explained.

How can a parent effectively support their child through feelings of abandonment or disappointment related to a deadbeat parent?

Penny says it is crucial for the child to know that it is not some "defect" they have when a parent is absent.

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"The parent is absent because of the parent’s issues, not because the child is not worthy of that parent’s love. We all try to make sense of what happens around us because that makes it easier to predict the events in the world."

The psychologist added:

"For children, lack of parental support or even lack of parental love is often interpreted by the child as their fault. They are not good enough, not lovable, or bad or defective in some way."

Social media users react to the woman's story

The lady's video touched the online community as they flocked to the comments to send them heartwarming messages.

TshegoM said:

"Tell your little girl that her Tiktok aunties and uncles are proud of her, and she did well. Congratulations. It takes a village."

Addy0khoza expressed:

"We need a single mother group; the pain of seeing our child yearning for fatherly love to no avail, I'm. Crying."

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Thuli shared:

"My dad never showed up to Important events in my life ( we are very close), and I Just don’t understand because we are close."

YT: Bonolo Motshwane commented:

"Congratulations to her. Tell her 70k of us are here saying congratulations, and we love her."

That girl Mel was touched:

"Oooh.. But God.. Wise words, mama.. Congratulations to your daughter. And pray her siblings to recover fully."

SA man cuts off 17-year-old daughter after heartbreaking family drama

Briefly News previously reported that one man was left heartbroken by his daughter's actions, and he took to social media to narrate the story.

TikTok user Frankdnation shared a story about a man not having it with his daughter's attitude. According to him, he decided to cut her off as the primary beneficiary of all his insurance policies. It all began when his ex-wife allegedly cheated on him with a man with whom she was in an emotional and physical affair.

Source: Briefly News