"She Ate, I Fear": Student’s Polite Yet Creative Response to Guy’s First-Date Invite Leaves SA Proud

• A university student's voice note declining a guy's invitation has gone viral on social media, showcasing her creative and polite response
• The incident has sparked a debate about dating culture on campuses, with many criticising the guy's invitation as inappropriate for a first date
• Social media users have praised the woman's witty response, calling her "smart" and "real," while also poking fun at the guy's invitation, labelling it a "big red flag"

A voice note of a university student politely curving a guy’s invitation has gone viral, leaving South Africans both amused and impressed with her creativity.

In the audio clip shared by @halaltyrone on TikTok, the man showcased a message that he sent to a girl on WhatsApp, where he invited the first-year student to his residence, explaining that because it was going to rain, they wouldn’t be able to go out. To make the date appealing, he added that he would order food so they could spend time together indoors.

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The young woman, however, had other plans. She calmly and respectfully responded with the following voice note:

"Hey, I would really love to come, especially because this is like our first date. But I just remembered that tomorrow is the 50th anniversary of my great-grandmother’s passing, and we basically honour her by staying indoors the whole day, lighting up the candles on her picture and praying for her. So I can’t really come. But if ever there is a sunny day, feel free to ask again, I would love to go to a restaurant again."

Her elaborate explanation quickly caught the attention of social media users, who praised her for turning down the invitation in such a thoughtful yet humorous way. Some joked that she deserved an award for her storytelling, while others highlighted how gracefully she declined without sounding rude.

The clip went viral since it was published on 17 September 2025 on TikTok. The social media user @halaltyrone took to his caption, saying:

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"Girls are getting more creative with lies."

The video has sparked a debate online about dating culture on campuses. While the guy’s invitation may not have worked out this time, the woman’s witty response has certainly made her a star on social media.

SA drags the man over his first date invite

The online community was not impressed with the guy's game, as they flooded the comments section, poking fun at him while some expressed their thoughts.

User said:

"Brotherhood is angry at you, you can't plan a first date indoors, that's a big red flag!"

Mata. N added:

"Girlhood and womanhood are very proud."

Nandos wrote:

"She's so smart."

Tumi stated:

"She’s so real."

Shasha commented:

"Emphasis on Restaurant."

Phelo replied:

"First date in YOUR room?? Uyahlanya."

Khanyii simply said:

"Girl stood on business!!!"

Asandemangoma was impressed:

"She ate, I fear."

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Source: Briefly News