“Doesn’t Make Sense”: Woman Vents About Female Family Members’ “Revealing” Attire, Gets Mixed Views

• A South African woman shared on TikTok how she felt about female family members wearing "revealing" clothing
• The controversial take specifically looked at the women wearing such outfits in front of other family members' husbands
• While some online users agreed with the woman's opinion, others thought differently and questioned her marriage
• Kelley Nele, a relationship educator, spoke to Briefly News about the healthy ways to communicate concerns about modesty without shaming or controlling others

While everyone has the right to wear what they want, personal style choices can sometimes stir strong reactions.

One woman sparked an online debate when she shared her controversial opinion about female family members wearing "revealing" clothing in the presence of other family members' spouses.

Hoping for a change... of clothes

TikTok content creator Mrs Khoabane, who describes herself as "passionate about Christ-centred marriages," took to her account and spoke to the "wifies" about the matter as she shared her opinion.

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The TikTokker shared an incident where she spoke to another lady about what to do if female family members dressed inappropriately in front of their husbands, and the option of reprimanding them came into question.

Mrs Khoabane wasn't here for the "revealing" attire and said to app users:

"Why are people walking around with half their bums out in a married woman's house? Make it make sense. For me, it doesn't make sense. It's not because I don't trust my husband. It just doesn't make sense."

Watch the TikTok video below:

How to healthily voice concerns about modesty

While speaking to Briefly News, relationship educator Kelley Nele explained that when communicating about modesty, it is important not to use an accusatory tone.

Kelley informs the publication:

"Remember that the other person is autonomous and entitled to express themselves however they please.

"You can make a request (using 'I' statements) emphasising why the issue is so important to you in a respectful manner, then give them the space to respond and ask questions. How you move forward will be dependent on their response."

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The internet takes sides

Thousands of opinionated social media users headed the post's comment section to express their thoughts about the woman's take on other women in the family wearing outfits she deemed inappropriate in front of husbands.

@makhanya415 asked the content creator:

"What happened to women not wearing clothes for men? Wearing them for self-love, etc."

@mathenjwa_s stated with a broken heart emoji:

"Don't police women's bodies."

@elisakgare told the online community:

"I am currently renting where I live, and there are people who live with their partners. I love wearing shorts. However, when I go outside, I change into something decent."

@shimielizi shared with a laugh:

"If that marriage is giving you that much insecurity, my sister, that marriage is the problem, not how other women dress."

@noluthando_khabazela17, who sided with the woman, added in the comments:

"I think as a wife, you have the right to reprimand. It has nothing to do with insecurities. This is my house and you will respect it."

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@asiphe2107 said to the public:

"This topic isn't about not trusting one's husband but boundaries and being decent. The same way we don't wear jeans at interviews, yet there's nothing wrong with jeans."

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Source: Briefly News