“Such a Gentleman”: Sister Stunned by Young Brother’s Gifts for Girlfriend, SA Impressed

• A caring boy went all out for his girlfriend, packing a variety of treats, including chips, chocolates, juice, and even accessories
• His sister, amused by his dedication, playfully suggested he leave out a few repeated items in the video shared on TikTok
• The clip left social media users in stitches, praising the young man's romantic efforts sweet gesture and romantic efforts
• Briefly News spoke with psychologist and relationship expert Penny Holburn about gifting partners

A young boy melted hearts online after his sister caught him carefully packing a thoughtful Valentine's Day gift for his girlfriend. The young man, Lefa, ensured no detail was overlooked, filling his gift bag with an impressive selection of treats.

His sister, TikTok user @maureenmahlako, was both amused and surprised at the effort he put in.

The young man packs his snacks

The video starts with @maureenmahlako walking to Lefa's room, where she finds him packing his snacks, including yoghurt, Simba chips, chocolates, juices and other treats, into a gift bag. Just to show how much he cares, the thoughtful boy also bought his babe earrings and hair pins.

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Seeing the goodies, she jokingly asks him to share some with her, especially the repeated items, like extra chocolates. Lefa, however, refuses. Confident in his romantic gesture, he insists that his sister would get her gifts from her boyfriend.

Watch the TikTok video below:

The act of gifting in a relationship

The Briefly News team spoke with Penny Holburn, a psychologist and relationship expert on whether it was important for boys to learn thoughtful gestures early in life. She said:

"It is very important and should be part of raising children - both boys and girls need to learn to respect and care about others. This leads to lasting relationships.  And it helps you get ahead in life in general. 

There are examples of people who treat others badly and get ahead, but in the long run, people are more inclined to stick around and want to be with you and work with you if you are a decent person. If you treat others poorly, it doesn't work out for you in the long run. Given the high incidence of gender-based violence in South Africa, if you are raising sons then you really do need to teach them to respect women.

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However, this works for being respectful and decent.  Sacrificing yourself and your needs and wants is not a good idea.  But self-sacrificing and being respectful are different, care and consideration matter.  Overdoing the giving to your detriment may lead to the other partner becoming spoilt and incredibly selfish - concerned only with their own needs. 

The team asked the expert what qualities define a true gentleman, and how young men can develop these traits. Penny responded:

"The same sort of qualities that define a good person. Qualities like respect, consideration, honesty, and courage to do the right thing. Most people learn this by observing those around them behaving like this.  So the people you spend time with are very important.  It is also good for young boys to have their heroes behave well."

In the case of a young boy gifting his girlfriend with many treats, we asked Penny if his mindset reflects a healthy understanding of relationships, or if it could be setting unrealistic expectations. The expert detailed:

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"One of the biggest challenges people have in relationships is that they expect what they are used to.  This is why so many people go back to men who are cruel, abusive, or unfaithful.  What we experience in childhood is what we get used to, and then, tend to seek this familiar situation out as adults. 

For good relationships in adulthood, one of the most important things is for children to experience good treatment, so they learn this is what they should expect.  As long as the experience is one of care that is good.  If one person is doing all the giving and the other all the taking, and people start feeling entitled to special favours, that isn't good."

Mzansi shows the young man love

The heartwarming clip gained traction, with social media users flooding the feed to share cute comments. Many found Lefa's dedication hilarious, while others praised him for being a thoughtful and romantic young man. Some playfully defended him, telling the sister to let him spoil his girlfriend as he pleased.

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User @Sonia commented:

"Such a gentleman, holding pins for hair👌."

User @👑Qween Kay👑added:

"He went all out. 🥺🥺."

User @Lux roses said:

"Cute."

User @Miss Mashele shared:

"Tell your man to buy for you😂😭👍tlogela (leave) Lefa👍."

User @Faith Vezi said:

"He's such a gentleman and really loves his girlfriend ❤️."

User @Lethabo Maluleka joked:

"😂😂My sister, if Lefa doesn't come back with his own gifts from his girlfriend take him back to fetch the gifts back."

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Source: Briefly News