“You’re One in a Million”: Mother-in-Law Scolds Others for Treating Makotis Like Slaves, SA Moved

• A mother-in-law took a stand against mistreating makotis, calling out in-laws who treat them unfairly and gossip about them
• She emphasised that daughters-in-law should be treated with kindness and allowed to dress according to their age
• Social media users praised her, with many wishing she were their mom-in-law and others wishing other moms were listening
• The Briefly News team spoke with Penny Holburn, a psychologist and relationship expert, about the relationship between a makoti and her in-laws

A mother-in-law sparked conversations online after boldly calling out in-laws who mistreat their makotis and gossip about them. She urged families to show respect and kindness, emphasising that daughters-in-law should be embraced as part of the family rather than treated as outsiders.

The video, shared on TikTok by @069172808nkwana, received much love online, drawing massive views, likes and comments.

The woman calls out other mother-in-laws

The video starts with the woman expressing that she wants to address her agemates who treat their son's wives like slaves. She points out that it is hypocritical for them to mistreat someone else's daughters while expecting theirs to be treated well in their marriages.

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She also addresses the issue of controlling how makotis dress, saying women should be allowed to wear what suits their age and personal style, proudly sharing that she buys bum shorts for her daughter-in-law.

Watch the TikTok video here.

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We at Briefly News had the pleasure of speaking with Penny Holburn, a psychologist and life, career, and business coach about how a supportive mother-in-law can help a makoti feel accepted, and why some resist that. She said:

"A supportive mother-in-law is someone who accepts and respects her daughter-in-law. That however does not necessarily mean buying her things. Sometimes mothers-in-law can feel the woman is not good enough for her son or may be jealous in some way.

People don't get on for a lot of reasons and these can be the reasons why a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law don't get on."

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The team asked the expert how inlaws can balance respecting cultural traditions while also allowing their daughters-in-law to express their individuality and independence. Penny responded:

"If the family has traditions and expectations for a daughter-in-law - then they need to express that and both parties agree what will be acceptable and what will not be."

We asked her what is the best way to handle family tensions over a makoti's lifestyle choices. She commented:

"Sit down and have a discussion to determine what is acceptable and why. What behaviour they can live with and what is not going to be acceptable."

SA shows the mother-in-law love

The heartwarming video resonated with many, especially women who admired her progressive mindset. Some social media users wished she could be their mother-in-law, while others joked that she needed to be the 'President of Moms-in laws'. Many also wished she had multiple sobs so more women could experience her love and acceptance.

User @faithhova

"I have the best inlaws🥰🥰🥰.....you the best too Mama😁😁."

User @Keneilwe❤️.

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"I’ll post this once I have my mum-in-law's tens 😭😭🫰🏽."

User @DINEO

"May all the ladies locate this kind of mother-in-law 🤞🏾❤️."

User @unapologetic361

"Mother-in-law was (of the) country ❤️."

User @Makgoshi.P

"🥰🥰🥰you are 1 in a million god bless you mommy rena rea dibona xam (we are seeing things)."

User @Takalani

"We need to protect this woman 🥰🥰🥰long live mama😍😍."

3 Briefly News Mother-in-law articles

• While visiting her son and daughter-in-law, a mother-in-law told her makoti to feel free to dress however she wanted, remaining that it was her home and they were just visitors.
• A makoti shared a picture from her white wedding, followed by a video of her fulfilling makoti duties, sweeping dust in a large unpaved yard at her mother-in-law's.
• A local woman warmed hearts online by sharing a video of herself and her mother-in-law home she called a best friend going out shopping.

Source: Briefly News