Woman Spends R3k on Friends' Birthday, Gets Ghosted on Hers, SA Reacts: "Fake People"
- One young babe was heartbroken by her friends, and she shared her story on social media
- The stunner expressed how her besties did her dirty on her birthday and people reacted to the hun's story
- Briefly News takes a look at how a friendship breakup can impact someone's well-being and ways to overcome it
- Lay counsellor and emotional support expert Astrid Daries spoke to Briefly News about the psychological effects of being ghosted by close friends and how individuals can set healthy boundaries to avoid feeling used in friendships
One young lady in Mzansi left social media users divided after sharing her upsetting experience of spending so much money on her friends only for them to do her dirty in return.
Source: TikTok
Woman spends R3k on friend's birthday, but they vanish on hers
The babe who goes by the handle @mkkhalangaaaa detailed how she went all out to make each of her friends' four of them's birthday special.
@mkkhalangaaaa went as far as to spend R3000 on each of them but was met with silence and no response after it was her turn to celebrate her birthday.
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The woman explained that she had organised a memorable birthday celebration, including a thoughtful gift and more, all to make their day unforgettable. However, after the celebration, her friends suddenly became unresponsive, leaving her feeling betrayed and confused.
@mkkhalangaaaa's video sparked a wave of reactions on social media by igniting a larger conversation about expectations in friendships and the emotional toll that can come from being let down by people you care about. The clip became a hit on TikTok, gathering loads of views, likes and comments within a few hours of its publication.
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Psychological effects of ghosting
While speaking to Briefly News, lay counsellor and emotional support expert Astrid Daries expressed how communication is essential in any relationship—whether with friends, family, or romantic partners.
"If we don’t express our feelings, needs, and desires, how can others truly understand what we’re going through or what we need in life? Contrary to popular belief, people aren’t mind readers; they need to be informed about our expectations and the dynamics we wish to establish," said Astrid.
It's critical to first recognise our own needs and express them in a straightforward and useful manner in order to prevent sentiments of being "used," says the emotional support expert or taken for granted.
For instance, friendships are based on loyalty, trust, and connection. The essential goals and expectations in friendships should be freely expressed, even though the basic principles may differ from person to person.
How to set healthy boundaries
In Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements, it's important to recognise that friends' actions are not due to us but rather reflect their own experiences, emotions, and circumstances. Sometimes, people need space to reset.
"Another important agreement Ruiz discusses is “Don’t make assumptions.” When we assume the worst—such as believing we are being intentionally ignored—we can spiral into unnecessary overthinking and self-doubt. Instead, if you’re concerned about a friend’s distance, consider reaching out with genuine care rather than making assumptions," she added.
"Ultimately, maintaining a strong sense of self-awareness and emotional balance helps us navigate relationships with confidence and grace, ensuring we don’t give away our personal power to misunderstandings or misinterpretations."
Mzansi shows the woman support and love
Many people in South Africa expressed sympathy for the woman while also offering advice on how to handle friendships where the effort isn’t reciprocated. Some viewers noted that it’s important to set boundaries and to recognise that true friendships should be based on mutual respect and effort.
Kwena Ledwaba said:
"I stopped buying people for this exact same reason. Worse, my birthday is always the last one. Sorry."
LK shared:
"I stopped buying people gifts a long time ago, due to this, I would spend lots of money on people, now I don't even bother unless it is my husband and kids' birthday."
Arindoliphant added:
"My wife likes impressing her friends by buying them gifts on their birthdays, they bought her nothing on hers I laughed so hard I told her wa fosta."
Siphesihle wrote:
"Those saying “stop having expectations “ Nisile! It’s like saying married women or men must not expect reciprocation of love & respect from their spouses! Reciprocation is important Yekani ukusa!"
Tilly877 expressed:
"Friends”…What is that? Nothing but a bunch of fake people."
Source: TikTok
Friendship breakups: Impact on well-being & moving on
According to itrustwellness, understanding how friendship breakups affect mental health and taking proactive measures to recover are crucial. We may go through an emotional struggle and find healing by recognising our feelings, getting help, taking care of ourselves, and making new friends.
3 More sweet friendship stories
- One woman decided to surprise her friend with a visit at work, and the wholesome video became a viral hit.
- Two female friends showed their close bond after buying the same cars and flexing them on social media.
- Briefly News also reported that a woman went out of her way to surprise her bestie, who was born in January.
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Source: Briefly News
