Old Video of Black Coffee Giving Marriage Advice to Mnqobi Shoba Resurfaces Amid Divorce Reports

• Media personality Phumeza Shoba reportedly filed for divorce from her husband and musician Mnqobi Shoba
• On Sunday, 7 September 2025, a social media user unearthed footage of Black Coffee imparting marriage advice to Mnqobi Shoba
• Several netizens criticised Black Coffee and linked his influence to Shoba's alleged infidelity
• Briefly News asked Media and Communication Lecturer Adelina Mbinjama how public figures, particularly in the entertainment industry, navigate the pressure of balancing personal relationships with public expectations.

An old video of DJ Black Coffee giving marriage advice to his best friend, Mnqobi Shoba, resurfaced amid reports of divorce.

Mzansi was left buzzing after news that Mnqobi Shoba and his wife, TV presenter Phumeza Shoba, were divorcing after 11 years of marriage. Phumeza Shoba, who celebrated her son Mpilo’s international gig, reportedly filed for divorce in July 2025 after 11 years because of her husband’s alleged infidelity.

While South Africans were reacting to news of Mnqobi and Phumeza Shoba’s alleged divorce, an old video of DJ Black Coffee talking marriage and fame with the former resurfaced online.

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Briefly News asked Media and Communication Lecturer Adelina Mbinjama how entertainers manage the pressure of balancing personal relationships with public expectations. She explained:

"I think it is quite important to acknowlege that public figures are also human beings. While we expect them to share their professional and private lives with the public, we cannot expect to know their finer details of their day-to-day operations. Public figures are also entitled to some level of privacy and should share what they feel comfortable exposing about their lives."

Black Coffee's advice to Mnqobi Shoba resurfaces

On Sunday, 7 September 2025, social media user @ThisIsColbert shared a snippet of Black Coffee giving marriage advice to his former Shana group member, Mnqobi Shoba. The snippet is from a three-part wedding special for the show P.S. I Love You, which aired on Mzansi Magic.

In the video, Black Coffee, who also went through a messy divorce with media personality Enhle Mbali, suggested that they were ill-advised about marriage because their fathers weren’t as successful as they are.

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“To be a black, and I’m gonna use the word successful, today living in my country because there's no, there's no education, no school, in personal development. If you look at your father and my father, who he knew very well, they were not equipped with the skills to advise us to be the men we are,” Black Coffee said.

Black Coffee, who consistently serves couple goals with his Venezuelan girlfriend, urged Shoba to attend therapy as often as possible. He also encouraged him to frequently change therapists, arguing that one therapist isn’t enough. He gave his experience after he divorced, and how he saw two therapists, saying:

“Constantly sticking to therapy, and not all therapists can help you. Not all of them. When I was first going through my divorce stuff, the first therapist I saw, I told her, ‘I need you to help me get over the fact that I'm being told how horrible I am as a human being. I am starting to believe it. I need you to help me, please and if I am terrible, tell me.’ When I felt I was fine, I changed my therapist. I went to another one and I said to her, ‘Help me take responsibility for all my actions.’”

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DJ Black Coffee also urged his childhood friend Shoba to put God first in everything he does.

Watch the video below:

Netizens react to Black Coffee's marriage advice to Mnqobi Shoba

In the comments, several netizens accused Black Coffee of disrespecting his father and failing to take responsibility for his own actions. Some also linked his influence to Shoba's alleged infidelity.

Here are some of the comments:

@Ndoda_Ya_Khona argued:

“It's common knowledge that DJs are womanisers, and these two men are simply enjoying the perks of the job. The career is idolised for its casual benefits, and I'd argue that easy access to women is a perk almost as big as the financial rewards.”

@MorwaMapula shared:

“The sad part is to believe that being famous and rich, you are wiser than your father or grandpa. They are both divorced. So, bo bhari fela.”

@PediKingDavis said:

“Speaking about your father like this is every disrespectful.”

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@Ntombenhle124 responded:

“Show me your friends and I'll tell you the type of person you are. He followed his friend's cheating ways hence he's also being divorced by Phumeza. Black men are a disgrace when it comes to building and maintaining the family structure.”

Black Coffee shares why his marriage failed

Meanwhile, Black Coffee previously shared why he believes his marriage failed, as reported by Briefly News.

In a candid interview with renowned media personality Thabo “T” Mokwele, the internationally acclaimed DJ shared how his parents' divorce shaped the man he wanted to be.

Black Coffee shared the moment his love for Enhle Mbali was extinguished.

Proofreading by Kelly Lippke, copy editor at Briefly.co.za.

Source: Briefly News