“We Should Start a Club”: SA Girls Value Friendship After Woman Spends Birthday Alone in Cape Town
- A woman on TikTok saddened many when she shared that she spent her birthday all alone
- Relebogile Rearabetswe explained that she struggled to make friends in Cape Town and was forced to ride solo
- Her social media users felt terrible for her and initiated a group chat where all of the women who lived around the city started a group chat
- A relationship expert shared some tips to help women foster healthy friendships with each other
A number of South African women have complained about struggling to make friends in real life.
Source: TikTok
They have gotten used to scrolling on their phones and becoming more comfortable with exploring in the digital space.
Lady spends birthday alone in Cape Town
South Africans who have moved to Cape Town in their twenties or older have talked about the struggles of making friends in the city. Some have found the problem to be classism, among many things.
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Relebogile Rearabetswe hopped on TikTok to share how she had to spend her birthday alone after being unsuccessful at creating meaningful relationships in the mother city:
"Missing home a little bit more today. Spending my birthday alone because life didn't end when I couldn't make friends in Cape Town."
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Mzansi reacts to lady spending birthday alone
A relationship expert, Paula Quinsee explained that friendships often start around shared activities or interests. Hence, a good way to meet new people and expand your social circle is to join groups, clubs, or events related to the things you enjoy such as a book club, yoga class, or volunteering at a community event.
Shared interests create a natural connection point between two or more people as we are a social species by nature:
“Building new friendships takes time and is in direct relation to the consistency we put into creating and nurturing those connections.
"In the beginning it takes effort to initiate even if it feels vulnerable at first, friendships require being open, honest, and vulnerable, which builds closeness and emotional connections. When you share your authentic self, you make space for others to do the same without judgment.
"Healthy friendships also honour boundaries, they don't feel compelled to fix or rescue each other, rather knowing they can be present and respectful of each other’s individuality and embracing each other’s differences, as diversity in friendships can add great value to your life experiences and perspectives.
“Most importantly, real relationships go beyond surface-level catchups, you need to check in regularly with friends and let them know you’re thinking of them, making it a habit to share what’s going on in your life and ask meaningful questions about theirs.
Social media users felt bad for the woman and commented:
@Saneli🇿🇦| Lifestyle|Skincare explained:
"I feel like we are all looking for friends in this city, but funny enough, we don't make friends. We should start a club at this point."
@amber_habana shot the first shot:
"Where in Cape Town are you? Let's be friends."
@jonadenefortuin888 shared:
"I've lived in Cape Town all my life and still don't have friends."
@Mas🎀begged:
"I need friends who will take me to groove, please; I'm tired."
@Lemogang Moeng suggested:
"Let's create a WhatsApp group."
@Shannel Harkhu commented:
"Guys, I'm from KZN, and I've been here for seven years! I'm super keen to make friends."
@Lou-keaMadii06 was particular:
"I wanna make friends, but please, not the rich ones. I'm not jealous, but I don't want to be overwhelmed with going out all the time, even when I'm broke."
Strangers throw lonely graduate a party
Briefly News also reported that a group of ladies from Joburg planned a graduation celebration for a babe who spent her big day alone as her family lives in KZN. The TikTok users created a group to host her after seeing a video she posted in her graduation gear, sitting alone at a local restaurant.
Social media users took to the comment section to praise the kind-hearted women on their act of love.
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