DNA Test Saves Marriage: Wife's Pain Ended After Husband Learns Truth About Child He Thought Was His
- A South African woman on TikTok shared how a DNA test brought relief to her marriage
- Her post revealed that her husband believed a child was his, leading to arguments and disrespect
- The test proved the child wasn't his, and many commenters shared their support and similar experiences
- Briefly News spoke to relationship expert Paula Quinsee on the challenges of bringing children from previous relationships into a new one and the issue of DNA testing
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A woman opened up about how a DNA test put her years of pain and frustration at bay when her husband finally learned that a child he thought was his actually was not.
Woman's husband finds out child isn't his
TikTok user @rural.stepmom posted a video where she revealed that she was relieved when the test results came back negative, proving her suspicions right that the child and baby mama who caused a rift in the marriage for years was actually not her husband's biological son.
"One day I will talk about how I fought with my husband over a child that was not his. He was so so convinced that the child was his. How we constantly fought whenever the child was visiting. How disrespectful the child was towards me.
"How the mother once told my husband that we can take the child to be ours even without intlawulo (damages) because she's going to get married to someone else. How the child was mantained more than the ones that were his. Yoh! Yoh! Yoh! I can go on and one about this story. But ke we move," @rural.stepmom shared.
Impact of bringing children from previous relationships
Paula Quinsee founded Engaged Humans, facilitating connections between individuals and organisations to create a more human-connected world.
She shared that children from previous relationship do have an impact on new relationships and dynamics can change.If this is left unaddressed, over time this could lead to feelings of jealousy and resentment as the partner may feel invalidated by the attention and priority given to the child.
"When a partner has children from a previous relationship, the relationship dynamics can impact how couples interact with each other daily due to the many challenges they may face when entering a newpartnership, especially when the child does not like a partner.It can put emotional strain on the relationship and partner who may feel rejected leaving them feeling frustrated and inadequate in the process" she said.
Quinsee also discussed how DNA testing and requires have an effect on the entire family
It is recommended that both partners seek professional support to help partners navigate the sensitivity of DNA testing. This helps address underlying issues of trust and provide a safe space to reach a way forward for both parties."
"Partners should agree on the outcome of the testing and they should agree to move forward with this process while at the same time clearly defining what the outcome of the test will mean for the relationship and how both partners will move forward and still respecting each other’s privacy in the process and that of the child’s best interests."
Mzansi reacts to wife's frustrations
The video garnered many views and comments from netizens who were intrigued by the woman's post and heartbreaking story.
Others commended her for not giving up on her marriage, while some shared how they could relate to her family issues.
Nobbii reacted:
"Kunini ngithi yoh ."
Slindile Samantha Sk asked:
"Hawu. Is he still your husband?"
Nozuko said:
"My sister in-law went through a similar thing and hey we so happy that she never gave up on her marriage because of lamntana no mama wakhe congratulations sis uthixo abenawe ."
Palesa_Omuhle wrote:
"I love it when the situations they created backfire on them . I'd be secretly laughing at him with my friends drinking champagne ke sana."
zoekhalifa3 commented:
"Yhoo congratulations, was this during the marriage bandla? Haww men."
Pretty replied:
"I have a very similar story ngoba emhlabeni futhi ."
Man finds out he's not the biological dad of his son
In another story, Briefly News reported that a Black man was overcome with massive emotions and tears in front of an audience when he found out he was the biological father of his son.
In a hearty video that begins with the man and a young man captured in a frame, the man eagerly awaits the paternity test result.
When the result was finally pronounced, he broke down in tears, owing to the proud and unexpected moment.
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Paula Quinsee (Certified Relationship Therapy Educator and founder of Engaged Humans) Paula Quinsee is the founder of Engaged Humans, facilitating connection between individuals and organisations to create a more human-connected world. She is a certified Imago Relationship Therapy educator and facilitator, NLP practitioner, PDA analyst, coach and trainer. Paula is also the author of two self-help guides - Embracing Conflict and Embracing No - as well as an international speaker, advocate for mental health and activist for gender-based violence.