“Without Love, You Have Nothing”: Couple Shares Relationship Advice After 3 Decades of Marriage

• A young South African gent filmed a Q&A session of his parents and their love story of over three decades 
• The love birds were happy to give dating advice to youngsters who’d love to experience healthy relationships 
• Social media users were fond of the older couple and shared their thoughts in a thread of 337 comments 

An older Xhosa couple warmed many South Africans after sharing their beautiful love story on TikTok.

Their son filmed a wholesome Q&A of them where they shared their journey of over three decades together.

Couple shares solid relationship advice after over 3 decades of marriage

A young South African man, Phumzo Kota shared a warm video of his parents telling a bit of their love story during a Q&A session. Kota asked all the right questions, which made it easy for the couple to talk about their highs and lows without fear of being judged.

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The older couple mentioned that they only dated for three months before making things official. They both appreciated their comparability and their differences:

“We complement each other yet we have similarities. We both love clean spaces, we both love music and we both love going to church.”

The couple admitted that they’ve experienced many challenges in the past and the most powerful way to resolve conflict is to move away from it and forgive each other. The pair highlighted that communication is key.

The wife said:

“I would forgive him for things he had not even done. I guess it’s my personality. We still fight and we’ll always fight because we’re human. We are truly in love. To me, you can have the world, but without love, you have nothing.”

The pair gave advice to people who want to experience a healthy marriage:

“Firstly you must build yourself so that you do not lose yourself and end up hurting your partner. You must change your mentality and look at your marriage in a positive light, and don’t dwell on negative things.”

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Watch the TikTok video below:

Mzansi reacts to married couple’s relationship advice 

Social media users were touched by the couple’s love story and shared their thoughts in a thread of comments. Many praised their bond and how rare their love seemed. Others admired the couple’s ability to stay so connected and voiced a desire to find such genuine love.

@Paris’s mommy🇿🇦🇨🇳 noticed:

“When a woman is loved right you can tell by their skin. Oh, mommy is beautiful her skin is glowing, and she’s happy.”

@noxolomali commented:

“This is healthy and so beautiful to watch.”

@Maserame wrote:

“Oh man, this is healing so many black men and women. It’s possible guys. Thank you so much, we have learned so much.”

@monesa_pula commented:

“Communication and comprehension is truly so important, it boils down to that.”

@Bulelani Precious ka Nenzani ❤ said:

“Why am I being emotional? I love them so much, I am very inspired.”

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@Zannie Lamuni 🇿🇦 🇨🇳 pointed out:

“Mama is still a gone girl.”

Keys to a lasting love

A study of 1,500 people found that lasting relationships thrive on effort, understanding, and intentional love. Strong couples prioritise open communication, making sure both partners feel heard and valued.

They express appreciation daily, whether through kind words, thoughtful gestures, or small surprises.

Keeping the romance alive is key, like date nights, spontaneous acts of affection, and shared experiences keep the spark burning.

Conflicts happen, but the secret is handling them with respect. No blame games, just teamwork. Maintaining personal interests and growth keeps the relationship fresh and exciting. Laughter and fun moments create deep connections, helping couples weather life’s storms together.

At the heart of it all, long-term couples actively choose each other every day. They adapt, support, and put their relationship first, proving that love, when nurtured, can stand the test of time.

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• South Africans were geeked by a cute older couple taking content in Johannesburg and trended on TikTok.
• A young Mzansi lady showed off her lovely parents' love and cute relationship after over three decades of marriage.
• One woman's heartbreaking Valentine's Day inspired other South African ladies to share their stories of leaving their husbands.

Updated by Hilary Sekgota, Human Interest HOD at Briefly News

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