Sol Phenduka Shares ‘Married at First Sight SA’ Star Palesa Mphaki Called Him for Marriage Advice
- A Married at First Sight South Africa Season 2 star allegedly reached out to Sol Phenduka for advice
- During a new episode of Podcast and Chill, Sol Phenduka shared the relationship advice he gave the star
- He suggested that the Married at First Sight producers matched the star with the wrong partner intentionally for drama and viewers
- Relationship expert Paula Quinsee shared the psychological impact of staying versus leaving an unfulfilling relationship
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Podcast and Chill co-host Sol Phenduka shared that a Married at First Sight SA Season 2 co-star contacted him for marriage advice.
In a Podcast and Chill episode that premiered on Monday, 6 October 2025, the former Kaya FM host shared that he personally knows Palesa Mphaki. Phenduka, who was previously criticised for his comments about Minnie Dlamini, shared that Palesa Mphaki called him for marriage advice when her union with her Married at First Sight South Africa partner, Tshepo Miya, started to crumble.
“I remember she called me on some, oh, there's this guy. I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, relax. Wait, breathe. What's going on? No, I'm part of this show, ‘Married at First Sight’. So, I'm like, ‘What the hell?’ And then she's like, ‘Yo, but now this guy is always like painting me to look like this way, and what can I do?’ I'm like, ‘I don't know.’ I remember she was complaining about that. And I'm like, ‘I don't know. I had to assist you. I've never even seen the show.’ But like then I like, ‘Boy, wait. Why would you go on a show and be married at first sight? Like what which one is this one, you know?’ But I know her,” Sol Phenduka said.
Phenduka’s Podcast and Chill co-host, Ghost Lady, revealed that Palesa Mphaki had also contacted her for an interview.
Sol Phenduka shares the advice he gave Palesa Mphaki
Later in the Podcast and Chill episode, Sol Phenduka suggested that the Married at First Sight Mzansi production company had intentionally matched Palesa and Tshepo Miya for views and drama. He said that the marriage was set up to fail from the start because Tshepo was not what Palesa was looking for in her ideal partner.
“So, when she called me, she was complaining that, and this guy, I told them the kind of person that I like, and they matched her with a person that they knew was the opposite of what she said she wanted. Like, she doesn't want a narcissist. She wants somebody who's humble, down to earth, and generous. Now, a person locking you out of your Netflix is not generous. I feel like the producers are very sneaky, and they do that,” Sol Phenduka shared.
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Sol Phenduka shared the advice he gave Palesa Mphaki. He said he indirectly told her that she cannot find true love on a reality TV show that’s meant to entertain viewers.
“I told her, you don't complain. You are part of the content. You are part of the great TV and content. And that's what reality shows try to do. They're not going to put people [who are compatible],” Phenduka explained.
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Speaking to Briefly News, relationship expert Paula Quinsee shared the implications of staying versus leaving an unfulfilling relationship.
She explained the psychological impact that an unfulfilling relationship might lead to drug and substance abuse to fill the void. Paula Quinsee also shared that staying in an unfulfilling relationship can also hurt children.
She explained how it can teach them the wrong lesson, that it's normal to be in relationships where there is no affection, love or happiness.
"This can also have a negative impact on children in the relationship as they will sense the disconnect, and what this does is teach them that unloving, disconnection, and unhappiness are acceptable in relationships vs what a healthy relationship is," Quinsee said.
Palesa Mphaki’s ex Tshepo Miya breaks silence
In a separate interview, Tshepo Miya finally broke his silence to address the drama from his short-lived marriage to Palesa Mphaki, as reported by Briefly News.
The Married at First Sight Mzansi star unpacked his ex-wife's web of lies, detailing how he supported her financially and even revealing her toxic traits. His revelations drew a storm of contrasting opinions from the online community as viewers debated over the couple's messy marriage.
Source: Briefly News
Tayananiswa Zvikaramba (Editor) Tayananiswa Zvikaramba is an entertainment writer at Briefly News. He previously worked as a profiler, sports, human interest, entertainment, and current affairs writer at Pindula (2016-2022) and iHarare (2022-2025). He holds a BA Honours in Archaeology from the University of Zimbabwe (2010-2013), YOAST SEO for Beginners (2023), YOAST Block Editor Training (2023), and YOAST Structured Data for Beginners (2023). Email: tayananiswa.zvikaramba@briefly.co.za
Paula Quinsee (Certified Relationship Therapy Educator and founder of Engaged Humans) Paula Quinsee is the founder of Engaged Humans, facilitating connection between individuals and organisations to create a more human-connected world. She is a certified Imago Relationship Therapy educator and facilitator, NLP practitioner, PDA analyst, coach and trainer. Paula is also the author of two self-help guides - Embracing Conflict and Embracing No - as well as an international speaker, advocate for mental health and activist for gender-based violence.
