South African Woman Leaves Job and Moves to a New City for Married Man, Ends in Tears

• A lady got candid about her life and shared her heartbreaking story, which left SA with mixed reactions
• The hun revealed how she left her job and changed her life for a married man, who ended up showing her flames
• Comments poured in from online users who flooded the post expressing their thoughts
• Briefly News spoke to relationship expert and Founder of Engaged Humans, Paula Quinsee, on navigating the emotional challenges of falling for someone who is married and the red flags to watch out for

Umjolo is not for the weak! One woman in Mzansi shared a painful yet eye-opening story that has left many in disbelief.

Woman leaves job, moves for married man

The stunner got candid about the drastic changes she made in her life for a married man, only to be left heartbroken in the process.

Taking to her social media account, @mvelenhlem revealed how she made the bold decision to leave her steady job and abandon her old life for a man who had promised her the world. @mvelenhlem expressed how the gent "deceived" her into breaking up with her boyfriend in place of making her a second wife.

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The young lady moved to a new city for the married man, leaving her old life behind in the hope of starting anew with him. However, he ended up showing her flames. The man blocked and ghosted @mvelenhlem upon her arrival, leaving her devasted.

Watch the video here.

Navigating emotional challenges of loving a married person

While speaking to Briefly News relationship expert and Founder of Engaged Humans, Paula Quinsee said:

"Falling for someone who is already married can be emotionally draining and complex as there is more than one party involved."

The relationship expert expressed how the first step is self-reflection and understanding what the relationship holds for you and that the foundation is unsustainable. Paula went on to name a few red flags to look out for while dating a married man.

Some red flags include:

• Emotional unavailability on the married person’s behalf and that they are unlikely to fully commit to being in a relationship with you.

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• Excuses and broken promises such as keep saying they'll leave their partner but never keeping you hanging on hope.

• Secrecy and hidden agendas - if your relationship has to be kept a secret, then it’s not a relationship, it’s a situationship.

• An emotional rollercoaster where you can experience a mixture of highs and lows from one day to the next which can impact your mental wellbeing.

• If you experience episodes of guilt, anxiety, or fear of being found out, it’s not a sustainable situation.

"Situations like this rarely lead to a “happily ever after” and often cause hurt and pain for all parties involved. The best is to stay away from these situations and rather do the self-work to understand why you are attracted to emotionally unavailable partners and what this says about your own sense of self-worth," said Paula.

SA chimes in on the woman's story

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People in Mzansi responded to the lady's story as they took to the comments section to express their thoughts with mixed reactions.

Mukonazwothe Linah asked:

"So you all take married men this seriously."

Joy said:

"We don’t judge, we watch, get shocked and scroll."

Sindy Gcaba expressed:

"Lol, even if he was married to me, I wouldn’t change my life decisions because of a man, never, sisi, no."

Yaya replied:

"I am so proud of him."

Bukeka commented:

"I love that married man I wish I could get him a cognac... ukulayile."

Women who caught their men cheating

• Briefly News previously reported that a woman had the shock of her life after she found her boyfriend snuggled up in bed with his side chick, who was a friend.
• A woman's heart sank as she saw her boyfriend, hand-in-hand with another woman, strolling through the shopping mall.
• A woman in South Africa was seen in a TikTok video destroying her cheating boyfriend's iPhone.

Source: Briefly News