“He Is Not Ready to Commit”: SA Reacts to Man Willing to Leave Girlfriend for a Hun Who Respects Him

• A gent on TikTok stunned many with his odd relationship views that only South African men seemed to understand 
• He emphasised his needs in a relationship that surpassed the feeling of being loved by a woman
• Social media users shared their opposing views in a thread of 764 comments 
• A relationship expert chimed in to explain whether or not respect outweighs love in a relationship

Romance films tend to push the idea that love is all one needs to have a long-lasting relationship.

A Mzansi gent proved that to be nonsensical scripting after he laid out his cards on what would make him settle down.

Gent leaves love of his life for woman who respects him

A guy went viral on TikTok after he shared what he truly wanted in a relationship. The chap highlighted that he would leave the love of his life for any woman who showed him the utmost respect.

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According to the comments in the post, South African men agreed that respect outweighs love in any relationship and that any lady who leads with that quality is good enough to marry.

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Paula Quinsee, a relationship expert explained that respect and love are very much related when it comes to relationships, but they play a different role when it comes to sustaining a relationship. While love creates the emotional connection, respect forms the foundation of trust, safety, and equal consideration.

“For many South African men (and men globally), respect may feel more tangible when it comes to their sense of identity and worth in a relationship. It’s important to understand what respect means to the individual as we may associated different meanings with the word such as respect for me as a person, your partner/husband/father of your child (no name calling, belittling, judging etc), respect for my contribution to our relationship (not only financially but in other ways too), respect for my dreams, goals and aspirations.

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“Without respect, love can feel superficial or even oppressive - the ideal relationship dynamic is one where love and respect coexist, but when one is absent, the relationship often suffers. When a partner does not feel respected (appreciated) in the relationship, it can end up dissolving the relationship over time, especially where someone's core values, self-esteem, or dignity are at stake.”

Social media users raised their opposing views:

@Masiya Mdee explained:

"You love a woman correctly; she will be submit and respect you automatically."

@🎀Mosadi _wa_mo_Afrika🎀 highlighted:

"A woman respect where there is leadership, consistency and protection."

@Valzyhun91 advised:

"He left cos I didn't respect him, yet he didn't give me anything to respect. Lead properly, and I'll submit naturally."

@MaMsomi 👑 prayed:

"May I never meet a guy who's left who he truly loves for me just cause I respect him."

@Latia212 wrote:

"He left because I respected him too much; he said it's not me, it's him. He said he's not ready to commit."

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Briefly News also reported that a South African man caught smoke online after he voiced what kind of woman his mother wanted for him. The ladies trashed the mom's standards and asked the gent to pursue her since she knew his standards best.

The comments section got heated as the women expressed themselves in a thread of comments. Briefly News reached out to a relationship expert to find out whether or not dating a mama’s boy is toxic.

Source: Briefly News