"Exes Shouldn't Have Access": SA Woman Says Ladies Should Change Their SIM Card After Marriage
- A lady caused a massive buzz on social media with her take on married women, which left SA talking
- The stunner listed her reasons why ladies should change their SIM cards when they marry
- The TikTok video went viral, and people reacted to the hun's thoughts as they flooded the comments
- Briefly News spoke to relationship expert and Founder of Engaged Humans, Paula Quinsee, about how important it is for couples to establish clear boundaries with their ex-partners after marriage
A woman in Johannesburg has caused a stir on social media after stating that women should change their SIM cards once they get married.
Source: TikTok
Woman lists reasons to change SIM card after marriage
Her controversial opinions, which were shared under her TikTok handle @thesweetpeachfactory, have sparked a heated debate online, with many South Africans sharing their thoughts on the idea.
In a video that quickly went viral, the woman explained her reasoning for the unusual suggestion. She argued that changing one’s SIM card after marriage can be a way to establish new boundaries. @thesweetpeachfactory went on to say the following:
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"Changing your SIM card after you get married is mandatory. Why would you want all your exes, all the guys you should to flirt with, to have access to you now that you are somebody else's wife. It is disruptive," she said in the video.
She also stressed how one can not have their previous partners viewing their status, commenting with fire emojis and hearts emojis when they look good. @thesweetpeachfactory said women have no business staying in contact with their exes.
The woman explained how it can be done by saying:
"The quickest way to remedy this is once you know that this man is really serious about me. I'm about to get married. change that SIM card. Deleting the numbers doesn't help because they can still reach out to you. Change your SIM card, be completely inaccessible, and make sure that nobody can reach you except for the people who matter, the people who add value to your life and the people who will not compromise your marriage."
@thesweetpeachfactory went on to say that a lot of marriages are being compromised due to individuals keeping in touch with their exes.
"The only person who is allowed to flirt with you and have full access to you is your husband. The exes are an ex for a reason. Do not keep them around, do not keep in touch with them, and don't entertain them. Some of you are still thriving on your exes paying attention to you even though you are somebody else's wife."
The video prompted mixed reactions, with some people supporting the notion of a fresh start, while others questioned whether this was a necessary step in today’s digital age. Some felt that the practice could be seen as extreme or unnecessary, while others appreciated the focus on privacy and self-care.
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Why couples must set ex boundaries after marriage
While speaking to Briefly News, relationship expert and Founder of Engaged Humans, Paula Quinsee, shared how important it is for couples to establish clear boundaries with their ex-partners after marriage, stating that it is important to establish clear boundaries with ex-partners to ensure that their current relationship is not impacted by past baggage. Without them, lines can get blurred, misinterpreted and cause confusion, jealousy, and trust issues.
"Clear boundaries also help to make it very clear where both parties stand with each other and to help both get closure and move on," said Paula.
"Transparency is key, especially with new partners so that they feel emotionally safe with each other and the relationship and this should involve having honest conversations about who you are in contact with and the nature of the relationship," she added.
The relationship expert and Founder of Engaged Humans also touched on the idea that changing a SIM card can be an effective way for married individuals to maintain privacy and show respect for their partner.
"Changing a SIM card can help if an ex is persistent or does not respect the boundaries you have tried to establish; however, it is a band-aid, not a long-term fix. If need, the issue should be addressed, and serious steps taken such as a restraining order to get a clear message across."
She expressed that changing a SIM card can temporarily address persistent ex-partners, but it's not a long-term solution. Addressing the issue and taking serious steps like a restraining order is necessary.
South Africans weigh in
People in Mzansi headed to the comments section to express their thoughts on the lady's rant, saying:
Mpesu Lady said:
"My exes are blocked. I’m not changing my number."
Sine wrote:
"Yhooo! A SIM card is a huge change, guys. This phone number is connected to everything- bank related, job-related, everything I have ever applied for is linked to this number."
Piedpiper of Law expressed:
"They can't do that because they want back up plans."
Mokgadi Andronicca replied:
"No. life doesn't revolve around romantic relationships. You don't have to change, you just need to have boundaries."
Mbalenhle Nkosi added:
"Block darling. Just block. And this should happen way before marriage on any event."
Travel Effect commented:
"This message is for only women ready for marriage commitments, not those trying to taste the waters."
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Johana Mukandila (Human Interest Editor) Johana Tshidibi Mukandila has been a Human Interest Reporter at Briefly News since 2023. She has over four years of experience as a multimedia journalist. Johana holds a national diploma in journalism from the Cape Peninsula University Of Technology (2023). She has worked at the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees, PAICTA, BONA Magazine and Albella Music Production. She is currently furthering her education in journalism at the CPUT. She has passed a set of trainings from Google News Initiative. Reach her at johana.mukandila@briefly.co.za
Paula Quinsee (Certified Relationship Therapy Educator and founder of Engaged Humans) Paula Quinsee is the founder of Engaged Humans, facilitating connection between individuals and organisations to create a more human-connected world. She is a certified Imago Relationship Therapy educator and facilitator, NLP practitioner, PDA analyst, coach and trainer. Paula is also the author of two self-help guides - Embracing Conflict and Embracing No - as well as an international speaker, advocate for mental health and activist for gender-based violence.
