South African Woman Gets Ghosted by Her Bae on Lobola Day, Mzansi Feels for Her

• A lady took to social media where she shared her story of how her man ghosted her on her lobola day
• The TikTok video gained a massive attraction online, gathering loads of views, likes and comments
• Netizens could not fathom as they flooded the comments section expressing their thoughts while some shared their experiences
• Briefly News spoke to a relationship and sex educator, Kelley Nele, who gave insight into why one would disappear on a partner on their big day

A South African woman was left devastated by her partner on the day of their lobola. She shared her story on social media, which left peeps in shock.

Woman blocks bae after ghosting her on lobola day

One hun who goes by the TikTok handle @bownie_segage uploaded a screenshot of her WhatsApp text with her bae. The young lady waiting patiently for her man to show up with his loved one ghosted her on their big day, leaving the hun shattered.

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In the text, @bownie_segage says the following:

"Baby, my uncles are waiting what's going on... They should have been here by 9:30 am, and it is almost 12 pm."

The stunner then proceeded to give him a call, to which he did not respond. However, he replied with a text message saying:

"Sorry, I changed my mind."

The clip grabbed the attention of many online users, garnering over 662K views, thousands of likes and comments within two days of its publication.

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Why a partner may back out on a wedding day or lobola day

A partner changing their mind mere hours before the wedding can stem from various factors, such as psychological, emotional, and relational factors. While speaking to Briefly News, relationship and sex educator Kelley Nele said that being ghosted on lobola day can be "very disruptive."

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"The person being ghosted can feel abandoned, and this can be particularly triggering if they already have abandonment wounds. The best thing to do is to accept that it happened, grieve the relationship, lean on your loved ones for support and the rest will sort itself out with time," she advised.

Kelley went on to express that people choose to ghost their partner instead of communicating their feelings or concerns directly because they find ghosting to be relatively more straightforward to "dip out" than to have a conversation.

"This 'cowardly' approach is often a product of a fear of confrontation and/or poor communication skills," she said.

What red flags might indicate a partner is likely to ghost, and how can these be addressed early in a relationship?

The relationship expert shared that it is difficult to say because ghosting often occurs out of nowhere. She went on to say that most people who are ghosted have a sense that the relationship is going well as the ghoster provides security and, therefore, are shocked when it happens.

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Mzansi netizens react to the woman's revelation

Many South Africans were shocked by the lady's story and flocked to the comments section to express their thoughts, while some shared their own experiences.

Kgothi said:

"I know this too well. I'm so sorry. I almost lost my mind, couldn't drive anymore, just pure anxiety.. and I was just drinking all the alcohol I had bought for this weekend. I am so sorry."

Mrs Khutšo expressed:

"I’ll never understand why they do such humiliating things."

Boitumelo Ngidi added:

"No one deserves to go through this humiliation. I hope you are okay."

Mr_Mohatle commented:

"It might hurt, yes... But in the long run, I think you might have dodged a bullet here."

She is Her wrote:

"God probably saved you from someone who could have ruined you; in everything, we give God the glory cause we plan, but he decides. I’m so sorry. Sending you love and strength, this too shall pass."

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Andile Andyy simply said:

"One thing about God he restores and big-time."

Woman shares astounding story of spending R30K, only to receive R10K for lobola

Briefly News previously reported that a lady shared a terrible encounter which shocked many online users in a video making rounds on social media.

TikTok user @dr_khosahp uploaded a video where she revealed that she spent over R30K on her lobola negotiations preparations, where she catered for her partner's uncles.

Source: Briefly News