“Men Always Choose Themselves”: Woman Dumped After Renting and Buying Boyfriend a Car, SA Astonished

• A woman shared a heartbreaking story about how her now ex-boyfriend dumped her after she had been financially supporting him for a year
• She revealed a few things she had done in the relationship for him, in a post shared on TikTok, only for him to label her as needy and unstable
• Social media users flooded the comment section, apologising for the bad treatment she endured in the relationship, while others found her generosity hilarious
• Briefly News spoke with Penny Holburn, a relationship, life, career and business coach, about the financial support of partners

Love can be unpredictable, and relationships don't always follow a logical path. Many people enter relationships with good intentions, only to find themselves in situations where their kindness is taken for granted. One woman's experience left social media users in disbelief after she shared how the man she was dating ended things with her despite all she had done for him.

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The woman, TikTok user @wuvejay, posted a clip detailing her experience. She revealed that she had been financially supporting her now ex-boyfriend for an entire year.

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In the clip, @wuvejay is sitting in front of the camera amused, recalling how love blinded her. In the caption, she details that she paid her boyfriend's rent for a year and also bought him a car only for him to call her mentally unstable and needy, and dump her.

Watch the TikTok video below:

Supporting a partner financially in a relationship

We at Briefly News spoke with Penny Holburn, a psychologist and a relationship expert, about what it means when one partner provides financial support while the other doesn't contribute equally. She said:

"It depends on the financial situation of the couple.  If one person is earning way more than the other, often they may buy things for the other partner. Simply because they can afford it.  If both earn more or less the same, or both earn a decent salary, then I would question why one person would buy big items such as a car and accommodation for another. 

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Sometimes it may be because the partner spending the money feels they need to 'buy' love.  Or maybe they are manipulated or coerced into buying big items for the other partner. The only time it may be okay is if the one partner who does the buying earns well or has a lot of money.  When the relationship ends though, often the person who spent all the money can feel used. "

The team asked Penny how individuals can heal after investing emotionally and financially in a failed relationship. Penny added:

"The ending will be painful.  And often people have invested emotionally and financially in a relationship, some more than others.  Usually, it is about grieving the loss of the relationship and any future plans,  and then moving on. 

Moving on can include learning lessons, which may need to be learned around what to do or not do in the next relationship.  If someone really invested a lot financially, then gifts can be returned to the person who bought them.

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We asked the expert if feeling taken advantage of was common in relationships with financial imbalance, and how can that be avoided? She responded:

"To some extent we all have an idea of what fairness means.  When one person contributes way more than another, it is quite common to be upset and to feel taken advantage of.  To avoid this, couples need to discuss finances and who will pay for what.  Be clear and upfront about how money will be handled in the relationship. 

Also, if the relationship is new, perhaps refrain from buying really large and expensive gifts until the relationship is more permanent."

SA debates about the lady's post

The post went viral, with thousands of users flocking to the comment section to share their thoughts. Many expressed outrage at the man's audacity, with some advising @wuvejay to see it as a lesson learnt. Others joked about how men often fail to appreciate the support they receive until it's too late. Some users, however, questioned why she had taken on such a financial burden in the first place.

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User @Aluwanieblack said:

"Sorry mama."

User @YimuZeeBenithini🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦 commented:

"I love how men always choose themselves😊, we should learn😘."

User @Nya added:

"You were a good man to him 🤦🏾‍♀️don’t do that again."

User @Nkosazanacarlady shared:

"You can’t love a person to that point baby."

User @Phindile✨added:

"Thank you for going through that so the rest of us NEVER do that for any man, we learned through your mistakes ❤️took one for the team."

User @Nthati Meso said:

"You defied the laws of nature ❤️you were giving what you needed. I hope you bring back all that love to yourself. Don’t do it again🥰."

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• A woman sought assistance with removing her ex-husband's name from the title deed of the land she purchased after he left her upon securing a job.

Source: Briefly News